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Success from a be-ing fertile approach perspective can show up in many ways. While many who have been trying to build their families for a very long time would say the only success that really matters is having a baby, I actually coach my clients to a different type of success first.

That success is: feeling good.

This past weekend, I received an e-mail from a woman who worked with me last year to share that she has been successful in conceiving (in fact, she’s 27 weeks pregnant). She has generously agreed to allow me to share her story with you.

I share it in two parts. The first part is the e-mail she sent to me after completing her 12-week program. It is written from the perspective of telling others what to expect if they decide to do the work; but more importantly, it shows the feeling state she was able to create for herself. This was her first success.

The second part is from the e-mail she sent sharing her pregnancy success. Notice how she was inspired to a “doing” step.

Aysha’s Story

Part I

After two and half years of trying for a baby, with nothing wrong with my husband and I medically, and trying to figure things out on my own by going down the alternative medicine path, I decided I needed to explore the mind body connection to see if there were any subconscious beliefs holding me back and try to uncover why this experience was happening to me. As this is my first major life crisis (and it’s a big one!), I realized I needed help on an emotional level and had also started to question where I fit into the world. Why was this happening to me on a spiritual level. I had never had any type of therapy of any kind before. I’m 39 years old. It took a bit of courage to reach out to a complete stranger in America, but after listening to a few of Jennifer’s calls, I felt comfortable enough to call and book the sessions, and I’m very glad I did.

Over 12 weeks we broke down the overwhelming emotions into bite size pieces where I was able to work through my feelings and beliefs, where they came from, and release them from my system. This is a really important part of the process because it’s such a complex and overwhelming thing to happen to you (as you are well aware if you are reading this), effecting so many parts of you and your life.

Jennifer is an expert. She asks the right questions and you feel safe getting all those horrible feelings out of your system. Also, she gives you a different and more healthy perspective on things, which makes all the difference. She helped me go through my first (and hopefully last) IVF cycle, which was very difficult for me as I had very negative views on doing IVF as I thought it would be going against mother nature and that it represented a failure of me as a woman.

As a result of our sessions, I had a particular breakthrough where I was able to face an experience from my past and let go of it, which I believe was holding me back. My body now knows that it’s “safe” to have a baby. As a result of this and the 12 weeks, I feel like a changed person. I no longer feel heavy with sadness, but much lighter with more joy and clarity than before, and now I am planning a big 40th birthday party in six weeks.

I am still on my journey to motherhood (and still have my sad moments) but I can relax and enjoy my life knowing it will come when it is meant to and my job is to have a great life in the meantime. A baby when it comes (and I know it will) will be the cherry on top of the already fabulous cake!

Part II

I wanted to share some amazing news with you. I am delighted to be able to tell you I am 27 weeks pregnant! It finally happened as I knew it eventually would. My last session with you was around April last year and I conceived in August. At the time, I felt happy and free, and was just enjoying being 40 and living my life. I was on a break from doing any more treatments (we still have one fertilized embryo on ice) but I wasn’t ready to put it back in and didn’t know when I would be.

I ended up conceiving naturally in the end (hurrah!) with the aid of Traditional Chinese Medicine. I was inspired to take it up again and after chatting with one of my Chinese colleagues in the kitchen at work, was referred to a place that was like being in China. I needed an interpreter.

I went to see the practitioner on day one of my cycle, and never ended up getting a period much to her surprise and mine! I went into it with an open mind, detached from the outcome, hoping, if anything, it would cure my horrible two days of period pain, agony, exhaustion, and if I fell pregnant, it would be a bonus. I sensed this was not normal (the two days of agony and clotting, etc.). It could be the reason why I wasn’t conceiving — a baby doesn’t grow in a cold womb according to Chinese Medicine. I ended up going once a week and drinking horrific tasting concoctions. The only thing on the list of ingredients that I could read that was in English was deer placenta! I also changed my diet to fit in with my Chinese medical imbalance. Only warm and hot food, nothing raw or cold, lots of red meat. Low and behold, it worked! On a month when I only had sex once, as my husband was away for most of it.

Another big change happened at the same time I conceived. I was offered an amazing new job, which I accepted. It was a huge step up from my previous role and a massive pay raise, working with an old friend of mine. I told them that I had just conceived and they were still happy to take me on. That week I felt like I had won the life lottery!

So now I am very pregnant and the baby is constantly moving all day and night. I am incredibly happy and content, and cannot wait to give birth. I wouldn’t say being pregnant and starting a new job was easy (far from it) but everything is on track for a beautiful and healthy baby, which will be due the beginning of May. I’m looking forward to giving birth, which I think will be a huge spiritual experience, a coming of age if you like bringing another soul into the world. I have no fear around this process and have complete trust in my body and nature.

So there you have it — the end of my fertility journey or maybe the beginning. I would like to thank you for the important part you played, which is one I will always be grateful for and never forget.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

In order for healthy conception to occur, your mind~body~spirit system must be open, communicating, and supportive of your intellectual desire to conceive. Each aspect of the system can place ‘stop signs’ to conception. Now, that’s anthropomorphizing in a big way… and yet, our mind~body~spirit system is a very alive system that has many moving parts, all working together to bring your heart’s/soul’s desire to physical existence.

What gets in the way of this happening? Why WOULDN’T your system work towards creating your heart’s desire?

The simple answer to this question is: safety.

Your mind~body~spirit’s main job is to keep you safe and alive. It’s in easy to think of some forms of safety: keeping you from stepping out in front of a bus, or deciding not to slip into bath water that makes your foot reflexes recoil from water so hot you would burn your skin. But what if safety came from your belief that you can’t share your true thoughts? Or that it was more important that someone else be happy than you? Or if something comes easily to you, you don’t deserve it?

Where do these beliefs come from?

Life experience. And not necessarily even your OWN life experience.

Most of our beliefs are in place by the age of seven. Some people even say three. So as an adult, you’re making decisions and beliefs from a child’s point of view.

What’s more: the part of brain responsible for recording emotions begins developing from the second day of conception. Can you have emotions this early? Your Mother did. From very, very early on in your Mother’s pregnancy with you, you were picking up on her emotional experiences and her vibrations.

If there was some stress and then some relief and then some stress and some relief then you learned that when stress happens, peace isn’t far behind. But, if there was a lot of fear and worry and no relief — your very basic systems learned the world isn’t a place to be trusted.

By the age of three you already developed the “lens” you look at life through.

Add to that the other beliefs you may have learned as you are growing up: keep quiet. Children are a hassle. You can’t have what you want. These beliefs weren’t yours to start with; they simply came with your experience.

You might begin to think that you are doomed. Or I’m telling you to place blame squarely on someone else’s shoulders. Not at all.

The idea is to begin to take a look at your own beliefs about the world. Are they really true? What do you really want to believe? How could NOT getting pregnant seem like a safer solution to your body than GETTING pregnant?

That last question’s a doozy. At least it can be when you haven’t thought about conceiving from a mind~body~spirit perspective. The first step is to find the beliefs. The next step is to begin to build new beliefs and remove those stop signs your body thinks are keeping you safe.

You hold the power to change the “lens” through which you see the world. The “lens” that creates the beliefs that can create the stop signs to conception. How wonderful will it be to clean house of the beliefs that are creating things in your life that weren’t even yours to begin with!

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

One of the advantages of using a Mind~Body approach to healing your fertility is that this approach is very personal to you. You are connecting and listening to what your body is telling you, you are paying attention to the emotions and feelings that are present for you, you are “feeding” your body with images of what you want.

However, this can lead to a sneaky new belief: I am the one who has to create this baby. I have to make sure I’m doing all the right things for my body. I have to make sure to visualize at the right time. I have to pay attention to everything. I have to… (fill in the blank).

I say this belief is sneaky because discovering the power you have in relationship to your body is SO important. However, when you want something as much as a child, you want to do everything you can, and it becomes easy to cross the line. Meaning, you end up trying to control your body and its processes instead of listening and working with them.

All this does is create more stress in your Mind~Body~Spirit system.

Your job is to listen to your body. To allow your emotions to flow. To shift your thoughts and feelings. To follow the inspired actions that arise as you listen. To be open and allow your body to do her work.

When you are in this place of allowing, you open to your deep wisdom, your connection with Spirit, the mystery portion of conceiving. This is where conception happens.

Your job is to “till the soil.” Spirit’s job is to “plant the seed.”

So tune into the powerful Mind~Body connection with whatever tools resonate with you. Feel your body coming into alignment with your deep connection to Spirit. Whenever you sense yourself tiptoeing over the line into wanting to control Spirit’s job, come back to your tools. Come back into allowing.

Now you have truly found the power of a Mind~Body approach.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

A very common reaction when you begin learning how your thoughts and emotions affect your fertility is to say, “You mean you’re telling me it’s all my fault? It’s all my fault that my health or my life isn’t the way I want?”

From there it is so easy to slip into feeling guilty and shameful (“How could I have let myself think like this?” or “Why didn’t I know this sooner?”), or to begin to slip into anger at being blamed. “Why in the world would I ever choose to have fertility issues?” “What series of thoughts or beliefs would I ever choose to have that would lead to miscarriage or loss?”

Here’s the thing: it’s not a conscious choice. Of course, you would never consciously choose these outcomes, these challenges. Your web of thoughts, emotions, and beliefs (dating back to your experiences as a very young child) affects your fertility at a subconscious level.

Mind~Body connection does NOT mean you are consciously choosing to have difficulty conceiving. There’s absolutely no blame; simply an opportunity to learn how to positively affect your fertility now you are aware of factors that used to be outside of your control.

Mind~Body connection does NOT mean you are causing fertility issues because of not being able to handle life’s everyday ups and downs. It’s not as simple as just relaxing more.

That doesn’t change the fact, though, that feeling blamed is the number one reason why people leave Mind~Body information behind.

Mind~Body work is about realizing the power of your thoughts and beliefs, and choosing to take responsibility for your own thoughts and emotions from this point forward.

It is about looking at your underlying thoughts and beliefs to see what is creating the dis-ease in your day-to-day life. Then once you have that knowledge, learning how to use that same connection to create the emotional and physical health you want.

But responsibility is NOT about judging your thoughts and emotions by assigning fault, blame, shame. Or, allowing someone else to judge you and invalidate your feelings and experiences because it’s “your fault. “In fact, all of these work against the very goal you are working to achieve.

Though, so many of us were raised to believe creating shameful thoughts about ourselves would motivate us to do more, to achieve more. However, motivation through shame leaves behind scars that create even more physical or emotional dis-ease.

Mind~Body work is about learning to look at this unconscious web of thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, and take responsibility for your emotions now that you know how they can affect your fertility. This means you don’t have to feel like a victim anymore. There are concrete steps you can take to creating the physical and emotional health you desire. How empowering is that?

I want to leave you with this idea: The fertility you have today is in part a product of your thoughts and emotions from yesterday. What you think about and experience today creates your fertility of tomorrow. Are you ready?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

From a Western Medicine prospective, or even from what we value here in the United States, getting to a “better feeling place” doesn’t really rank very high in importance. In fact, Americans tend to take on the personal mantra: No pain, No gain.

When it comes to your body and your fertility, nothing could be further from the truth. I’ve spent time in this newsletter and in all my classes sharing with you what happens when you push yourself relentlessly and ignore the pain that infertility typically brings.

What I would like to share with you today are the benefits that come from trying something new and making feeling better one of your highest priorities.

You will find a wealth of benefits throughout your Mind~Body~Spirit system. I’ll take them one by one. Here’s what you can expect in each aspect of your system when you step into the better feeling place:

Mind

  • Immediately, any fog or cloudiness in your mind will begin to clear.
  • You’ll be able to make decisions again.
  • The wear and tear of obsessive thoughts will disappear.
  • Emotions like hope, believe, and expectation will begin to become possibilities again.

Body

  • The ever present low level stress in your body that engages the stress response will stop.
  • Your cells will move from “protect mode” to “growth mode,” allowing them to function at their peak potential.
  • The pressure will come off your reproductive organs as well as multiple systems in your body like your immune system, endocrine system, and neurological system. Now they can communicate with each other and work at their fullest potential.

Spirit

  • As you release the pressure at both the level of the mind and the body, you become even more connected to Spirit, God, Your Higher Self, Universal Energy — whatever word you use to describe the higher power that is part of all of us.
  • As you open back up to your connection, you allow the full power to flow through you again, allowing you access to eternal wisdom and insights.
  • When you open up to a higher power, you immediately take the burden off of you — such relief.
  • You open up to the wisdom of this higher power. No longer do you have to live, wondering about the “how’s” or “when’s.” You follow the insights that come up, but you no longer have to push hard and choose everything.

Stepping into a better feeling place isn’t a one time action and you don’t have to do it all at once. Each time you make a small step or make a small decision to step into a better feeling place, you bring yourself that much closer to all the benefits I listed.

And, since what you really want is to have a family — you can think of everything else as a “side effect.” How many other fertility enhancers can provide a list like this?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Heals at a cellular level

Your cells carry emotions and memories from the many traumas we experience in our lives. These traumas can be small (like being yelled at in traffic) or large (a parent that leaves, a miscarriage or early infant death, a divorce). These storied memories and emotions contribute to the body’s “emotional chemistry,” which is responsible for telling the cells of your body how to act and behave (fear mode or growth mode), which aspects of DNA to turn on/off, and more.

Heals without having to know why

The subconscious mind can create blocks to your conscious desires — like becoming a mother. Energetic healing can see and heal the blocks without ever having to know why they were put in place.

Gives you insights about your body~mind~spirit

On the flip side, energetic healing gives you access to the deep wisdom within your body helping direct to what exactly needs to be healed. You end up having a much more insightful understanding about your mind~body~spirit and your system heals and comes back into balance gently.

Reopens the overall flow of energy in your body

Just as blood vessels carry life-giving oxygen and nutrition to all the cells of your body, your energy system carries the vital energy force to all systems, cells, and structures within your body. When blocked, it can’t support your body — or your reproductive system — in the way that it needs to for optimal functioning.

Deep, restorative relaxation

Clearing your energy signals your body it is safe to do deep healing. Achieving your fertility goals requires just the opposite kind of approach than all the other goals you’ve worked towards in your life. In other areas of your life, working hard, pushing and striving, help you achieve what you want. Your reproductive system, however, requires nurturing, gentleness, and receiving in order to do its best work.

Energy clearing may not be familiar to you. However, once you experience its cumulative, gentle effects, you’ll find you want to add it to your toolbox for moving towards creating the family you desire.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.