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A common thought in the Mind~Body~Spirit approach to conceiving is it is helpful to “let go” or “surrender.” I have clients tell me all the time they think they need to surrender because there are so many stories of people “giving up” and then they get pregnant.

Surrendering or letting go is challenging because many people do believe they have to “give up” their desire for a baby.

Surrender IS a key concept I teach to my clients. (It is the third principle of Being Fertile.) However, I am most certainly NOT asking them to give up their desire to have a baby. Here’s what I am asking them to surrender:

  • The constant monkey mind, which is always whirring, spinning, questioning and asking, “What do I do next?”
  • Anxiety and fear.
  • Letting go of the judgment about not yet having a baby. This is all about making peace with where you are.
  • The attachment to needing a baby.

    What I mean by this is we often attach very specific meaning to having that baby. To some people it means they are no longer a failure or have finally proved they are enough. This creates mental tension.

    When you can embody the knowing that no matter what happens — baby or no baby — you are going to be okay. You move your entire physical body into a knowing of safety. This creates the emotional chemistry that allows your cells to be in growth mode, which in turn supports your innate fertility.

  • The attachment to how the baby comes.

    This often creates the most fear. I am not asking you to be comfortable with all avenues to creating a child. I am also not asking you to take any steps into any avenues you aren’t ready to take (or may even need).

    However, when you place a limitation such as: I refuse to use medical intervention … or … I refuse to do IVF, etc., then you create a substantial amount of mental resistance, which takes a lot of energy to deflect. This draws down your available physical resources and creates the emotional chemistry that supports the fear mode in your cells.

Attachment creates both emotional suffering and physiological changes within your body, which work against your fertility. Surrender is never asking you to give up your desire, simply your attachment to needing the baby to be happy.

Surrender is an evolution. Start today by becoming aware of what you are attaching to your desire to have a baby and how this baby comes to you. Take those questions softly and gently and see what arises.

Jennifer Bloome, MSOT, HWC, is the founder of Anji, a company dedicated to providing support for women’s health and self-care. Jennifer is a Health and Wellness Counselor specializing in Women’s Health, and a Certified Energy Practitioner. She has trained at Herbert Benson’s Mind/Body Institute in Boston and has spoken nationally on the effects of Mind/Body medicine on women’s health. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized guided meditation series, “A Journey of the Heart.”

There may not be another act that is as intimate as creating a baby.

Not only is physical intimacy required, but emotional intimacy is involved as well. Hopes and dreams for a Soul that isn’t even on the planet are intertwined with a deep desire for everything to be “okay” with the pregnancy and baby.

When infertility gets introduced into the baby making process, physical intimacy is often removed, but emotional intimacy skyrockets. Fear. Worry. Wonder. Anger. Hurt. Jealousy. Rage. Questioning. Sadness.

Emotions explode and intimacy suddenly feels overwhelming. Who really wants to get more intimate with what can feel like a raging river?

Often, the reaction is to seek refuge in the mind: how can I figure this out? What can I do to fix this problem? What steps do I need to take? I’ll do whatever it takes to make this happen.

Intimacy gets pushed to the side and action takes over.

And yet, when this happens, the true opportunity of intimacy is missed.

Infertility is a signal that your mind-body-spirit is out of balance. Infertility is an invitation to delve into a deeper understanding of the connection between your mind, your emotions, your connection to spirit, and your body.
Many mistake this opportunity as blame. As in, “This is my fault.”

I invite you to look at this through a different lens. This is a call from your Soul to bring you back into alignment. It’s a call for a more intimate understanding of your Self and a deep transformation that will bring you into a new way of communicating with your body and the world around you, as well as finding your path to becoming a Mother.

Ready to use the power of intimacy?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If you aren’t receiving the child you want, then you have some underlying beliefs that are impacting your ability to receive.

In my 17 years of experience in working with women to help them create the family they desire, I have noticed certain themes in these beliefs that were blocking their ability to conceive.

Body
Will it be safe for you to go through a pregnancy?
How hard will pregnancy be on your body image?

Sexuality
Beliefs developed from trauma or abuse.
Comfort with your body’s cycles.
Knowing that having sex is safe.

Feminine vs Masculine Energy
Are you able to receive?
Can you receive without feeling guilty or needing to prove you’re worthy first?
Can you exchange the driving, striving, pushing energy with allowing, receiving, and nurturing?

Baby’s Health
Fear the baby won’t be healthy
Significant fears and worries about being able to keep your child safe.

Family History
Wanting to be like / not like parents.

Work/Life Balance
Will you be able to be the parent you want to be and nurture what’s important to you as an individual, including career.

Relationships
Will a baby come between you and your partner?
Who do you want to be as a mother?

General Themes
Perfectionism.
Flow of life: is life hard / struggle vs. joy / ease — are you willing to allow what you want to come with joy and ease?

Sometimes treatment is enough to overcome the conflicting beliefs. But, if treatment hasn’t been helping… or if you want to take a more natural approach, learning your personal underlying blocks can be helpful.

Of course everyone is an individual. My invitation to you is to sit with the list and see what resonates and what comes up for you.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Do you find yourself frustrated because a Mind~Body approach “doesn’t work”?

You’ve done it all. The relaxation. The affirmations. The visualizing. And you still don’t have your baby.

What’s the missing key?

Often, we make the decision that we’re the missing key — but in a negative way.

We are somehow broken, defective, or out of favor with the Divine (Spirit, God, Goddess). The Truth that we’ve cleverly hidden from the rest of the world is finally on view for all to see — we aren’t enough and the fact that there isn’t a baby is the final physical evidence.

All of these convoluted thoughts is one of the reasons infertility is so painful. Not only do you not have the child you want, but you use it as proof to beat yourself up.

The fact of the matter is, the key to allowing a Mind~Body~Spirit focus to bring you the baby you want is simpler than you think.

Consistency.

Each day we have somewhere in the neighborhood of 60,000 thoughts.

60,000 opportunities to take us to a Zen or stressful state of mind.
60,000 opportunities to put our bodies in a place of growth or fear.
60,000 opportunities to create a relax signal or a danger signal.

Depending on your choices, you are either placing your body in a state of alignment with fertility or with infertility.

Perfection is NOT required.

If you can take 51% of the opportunities to move toward peace, Zen, or growth, you are well on your way to creating an internal environment that is in alignment with fertility.

If you take 51% of the opportunities to surrender, let go, trust, open to receive, expect what you want, amplify your fertility, or play in the present moment (all pillars of Be-ing Fertile), you are well on your way to the consistency that will powerfully impact your fertility.

Is it simple? Perhaps.
Is it easy? No.

We have a life time of habits of thought that take us to feeling fear, worry, anxiety, and more.

So what do you do? Use all the Mind~Body~Spirit tools you possibly can:

Meditations
Yoga
Breathing Exercises
Guided Imagery
EFT (to release the patterns of thought that create fear, worry, anxiety)
Acupuncture

All of these will help you create a consistency of thought that will bring your Mind~Body~Spirit into harmony, build your Be-ing Fertile state of being, and align you with your baby.

Remember, I am asking you for consistency, not perfection. You do not need to be the master on the mountaintop to conceive.

I ask you to simply become aware of how you are directing your 60,000 thoughts each day and set the intention that 51% of them bring you towards Be-ing Fertile.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

“The body says what words cannot.”
— Martha Graham (1893 – 1991)

Martha Graham was undoubtedly talking about the body’s expression through dance.

But, think of the daily “dance” of your body throughout the extent of a day. What does your body tell you?

What are the aches and pains, the energy level, the general comfort level you have being inside “your skin” telling you that you need?

What is your body sharing with you through the imbalance manifesting as infertility?

Take a moment today, and listen to what your body is saying to, in ways other than words.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

As you are working to build your family, you have so many options as to how to improve your fertility.

One danger I see is people doing as many different modalities as possible while not paying attention to the “why” of the modality. In other words, “ticking” the box of doing that particular modality without truly integrating it in, so it has the possibility of doing what it was designed to do.

For example, including relaxation or visualization.

The whole point of doing relaxation and/or visualization is to stop the danger signals that are going on in your body. The Relaxation Response shifts the internal chemistry of your body, which in turn, supports, nurtures, and amplifies your fertility.

However, if you are doing the relaxation exercise and then following it up with chaotic days, continual angry, stressful, or anxious thoughts, or multi-tasking through the exercise, the results become null and void.

No judgment, but are you allowing the methods you are using to amplify your fertility, the ability to actually work?

Difficulty with infertility is your body telling you something is out of balance within your body (same as if someone has cancer, heart problems, or diabetes). What is your body telling you? What is your body truly asking for to shift that imbalance?

As humans, we resist change. We want what we want when we want it, without having to make any changes in our lives. I get it. I’m the same way.

You are here and part of the Anji community because you have interest in creating fertility within your body through a Mind~Body~Spirit approach.

If you are willing, I am going to suggest some questions to journal with or simply sit lightly on your consciousness to help you ease into an integration and/or commitment that will change your fertility.

  1. What kind of imbalance is my infertility reflecting to me? Is it in the area of the body, the mind, or the spirit?
  2. What is one step I can take today to bring myself more into Mind~Body~Spirit balance?
  3. What can shift in my life outside of fertility to match the new skills / thought patterns I am learning within my fertility quest?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Several years ago, I worked with a colleague who joked about how her fertility approach was starting to mirror her original approach to finding the right partner. She shared how she and her friends would laugh about how the right partner would only come when they weren’t looking… and spend their dinners out together trying to catch one of the others looking over their shoulders “just in case he was passing by.”

A Mind~Body~Spirit approach to fertility asks you to build your belief and expectation that your baby is on its way to you before you have any physical evidence this is true. In fact, I ask my clients to stop looking at the physical evidence (in essence asking them to stop looking over their shoulders to see if anything has changed).

A Mind~Body~Spirit approach is not generally a quick fix. The first evidence you are making a change shows up as feeling better emotionally and/or feeling more connected with your own divinity or understanding of how this fertility journey fits into the overall pattern of your life.

When you are constantly evaluating and asking, “Is this working,” it negates some of the Mind and Spirit shifts. This kind of question takes you out of trust and triggers the stress response in the body.

So, how do you make sure you are “doing” the approach correctly?

Here are a few guidelines:

  1. Ease all or nothing thinking.

    Of course the goal is to have your baby. At the same time, your body gives you signals it is shifting toward fertility. These signals can look like: your cycle shifting back towards “normal,” less stress, better sleep, less PMS, etc. See all of these signs as a signal you are building momentum towards the baby you want. Allow your momentum to build as opposed to judging a method negatively because it didn’t create a baby the first month.

  2. Ease up on the “why” questions.

    At first glance, “why” questions seem important. After all, if you can answer the “why” then you will most likely know the “how.” Yet, with fertility, this often isn’t the case. Either you are “un-explained” or you know there are certain issues with egg and sperm, but what should be the “how” doesn’t always yield a baby.

    Notice how often you are shifting into the “why” questions: why is this happening, why me, why is this taking so long, why isn’t this working?

    Why questions turn your attention to the past and base your momentum on past conditions (infertility) rather than the condition you want (a baby). Begin to be conscious of how often you are asking “why” questions. When one comes up, use it as a reminder to take a full, deep breath and bring yourself back into the present moment.

  3. Be willing to use emotional shifts as evidence you are making progress to your baby.

    This is often a really big shift to make because we are not used to emotions being anything other than something that makes us feel good or bad. In fact many people push away emotions.

    Your emotions are your key to how your body is functioning. This is a simplification, but — if you feel good, you are allowing your body to be in full functioning mode. If you feel bad, your body is receiving signals to start a stress response and shut down all but essential actions in your cells.

    Put your focus on being willing to a) Make the emotional shift (even feeling neutral rather than stressed is better for your body, and b) Celebrate the progress you are making towards your baby.

As you ease yourself through the ease of these steps, you will find yourself stepping more confidently into a feeling-state of hope, expectation and belief. These feeling-states will propel you forward towards your baby.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

A simple Google search of the term “fertility help” yields 60,300,000 entries.

Can they all be helpful to you? Can they really give you the pregnancy success they promise?

When you have tried dozens out of the 60 million options without luck, it’s reasonable to become a bit jaded and cautious. How do you utilize products/services that will help you and release the rest?

Here are three steps to take, which will help you improve your own success.

  1. Spend time developing your own internal connection.You are your own unique constellation of cells. What works for your body may not work for someone else’s body and visa-versa. This is both empowering and completely overwhelming. How do you make decisions? Will somebody else’s success story carry over to you if you follow the same steps?

    Spend time getting quiet and learning to listen to your body’s yes/no response. While you could call this intuition, I believe it goes even deeper.

    You have your own individual connection with the Divine. When you learn to tune into, hear, and follow what your guidance is telling you, now you are able to discern whether a particular method, nutritional supplement, or physical activity will support your fertility.

    Read the research, read what others have said, and then put that information aside and tune into your guidance.

  2. Go all in.Once you’ve decided, go all in. Put all your focus on following the method. Believe in its success.

    If you spend time second guessing yourself, wondering if you have made the right choice, wondering how you’d be doing with a different choice or any other monkey mind chatter, you diminish your body’s ability to fully utilize the choice you have made.

    Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t get to change your mind, or a particular program/supplement, etc., will always be the right choice to follow. I’m not suggesting you but blind faith into a single action step or a single person.

    There is a difference between second guessing yourself and listening to your guidance. If you have spent time doing step #1, you will be able to discern whether you are simply feeling a little anxiety because you really want your baby and when you are getting an intuitive hit that it is time to transition to another method.

  3. Allow it to be a series of successes leading to your baby.Instant success (especially after all your years of trying) is highly desirable, right?

    At the same time, when you NEED THIS program/supplement/doctor/approach to work RIGHT NOW, you place incredible stress on your body at both the cellular and energetic levels. I understand it is easy to feel this month needs to be the month, especially if you are feeling time and/or budget issues.

    But, how would your decision making process improve if you listened to what your mind~body~spirit needs in this particular moment? Perhaps your emotions need support now, which will set you up to be ready for the body-based treatment you do in three months?

    Most often, success comes from a series of action steps. And again, success is augmented when you’ve spent some time cultivating your inner connection, so you can feel confident you are on your path to a baby.

No one method works for everyone. Trust yourself. Trust you are listening to your mind~body~spirit connection and know you are on your way to success.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” — Victor Frankel

Our human nature drives to try to “known” solutions before doing something else. It’s not that we only want an easy solution; it’s more about: how can you try something you don’t know about?

Yet, when a big problem persists, it’s time to find out what you didn’t know you didn’t know.

Mind~Body~Spirit solutions for fertility issues typically fall into the “didn’t know you didn’t know” category. Taking on a M~B~S view of fertility requires moving from believing doctors and medical science have ALL the answers to uncovering your own role in your health.

You have probably made steps to taking care of your own health in the areas of diet and exercise before. However, what about listening to the deeper messages from your body?

Here’s something to think about: In addition to being painful, excruciatingly frustrating, depressing, sad, and (add your current emotion here), infertility is also a message to you from your body.

A message energy is blocked somewhere in your body. A message your body is trying to get your attention in the only way it knows how. A message that when you really hear it; will tell you what to do to heal.

Christiane Northrup, M.D. in “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” describes this eloquently:

“Every thought we think has a biochemical equivalent. Every emotion we feel has a biochemical equivalent. One of my colleagues says, ‘The mind is the space between the cells.’ So when the part of your mind that is your uterus talks to you, through pain or excessive bleeding, are you prepared to listen to it?”

This can be quite a challenge to get your mind wrapped around. We typically aren’t taught to listen to our bodies. We’re taught to cover up symptoms with Tylenol or Tums. We’re taught to push through our body’s pain. Not with malicious intent — but from a disconnected understanding of how the body works.

I invite you to begin to step up to this new challenge to change yourself. Begin to start thinking of all of the physical symptoms in your body — painful periods, short luteal phases, muscle pain, headaches, and digestive issues — as messages from your body.

Take time to quiet your mind, take a couple of deep breaths, and then drop your awareness down into your body and ask, “What do you want me to know?”

You’ll be amazed at what you hear once you start listening.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

One of the most challenging aspects of taking a Be-ing approach to your fertility is knowing when to shift into Do-ing. To be able to make this shift easily, you must first understand about the energy you carry within your body.

The state of Be-ing is governed by the feminine aspect of our divinity.

Each of us is a blend of divine feminine and divine masculine. Typically, the feminine is about receiving and the masculine is about doing. But I want to share something deeper about the feminine.

The feminine carries both Yin and Yang energy.

Yin is the more traditional feminine that we think of: nurturing, gentle, allowing, being. This is the uterus, the womb that receives the embryo, and gestates the baby.

This same womb also births the baby. In Divine right timing. This is the Yang feminine energy. The part of you that will know when it is right timing for you to act.

To know when to shift from Be-ing to Do-ing, you must:

  1. Trust you have both halves of the feminine within you. We have learned to listen to everything that is outside of ourselves: deadlines, other people’s timelines, how we think life should unfold. We have forgotten the art of listening to ourselves.
  2. Remember Be-ing IS a Do-ing step. Allowing yourself the peace, time, and quiet is as much of an action step as taking hormones, or going to yoga. Our culture has cast this type of action as at best “relaxing” or at worst, “lazy.”
  3. Build your connection with your inner being. The more you build this connection, the more you will hear its soft voice from within.
  4. Connect first. If you have a decision to make, connect with your inner being, your inner divinity. Then think about the decision. How does your body feel? What messages are you getting?
  5. Trust your intuitive hits — both fertility and non-fertility related. The more you listen and act, the more you will hear.
  6. If something doesn’t feel right, stop.

Most importantly, when you act, do it from your whole being. Meaning, don’t do it but also worry about whether it is the right time, or if you are going to make a mistake, etc. Be in complete alignment with whatever decision you make and every action you take.

The more you practice, the easier it will become to know when it is time to transition between Be-ing and Do-ing.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.