Entries tagged with “journey of the heart”.


Whether I’m speaking to a client or another professional who works with fertility, I’m always talking about the Mind~Body principle: How you feel matters to your fertility.

But what does this really mean? Does it mean you have to be positive about your fertility all the time? Well, yes and no.

Let me explain.

Your cells are constantly listening to the emotions within you in order to know how to respond. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between something you are experiencing in real time or simply thinking about it. Your emotions and thoughts — whether related to fertility or other areas of your life — impact your reproductive system.

My most pressing desire in my work with my clients is to start with simply feeling good in the moment; feeling peace, calm, even joy if we can get there. If we can get there by talking specifically about fertility, great, but if it means simply feeling good in general, that’s just as good.

Let me give you an example. I’d like to share an e-mail from a woman who participated in last week’s Mind, Body, Sprit Tools to Release Fear and Worry teleclass because I believe it reflects this exact point.

Jennifer,

I am in the process of preparing for a frozen embryo transfer. I have had many ups and downs in this fertility journey. Obviously I don’t know yet if the “dealing with fear and worry” workshop will “result as such” in a pregnancy but I can say I feel much better, much calmer, and generally okay. This in and of itself is a positive result. This process has been so fraught with unsettling emotions, the ability to feel good while going through a procedure is a new and positive development.

Thanks for a thoughtful workshop,

K.

PS: I used the “support from mother earth, love from spirit above” tool a few times yesterday having nothing to do with fertility.

Two aspects of this e-mail stood out to me. First, she celebrated feeling better — without knowing if it was going to have a specific effect on getting pregnant. While I know the ultimate desire is to be pregnant, you must give your body time to shift. Feeling good is the evidence you have that you are putting your body in its best condition to conceive.

Second, she used the tools we spoke about for emotions having nothing to do with fertility. A Mind~Body approach to fertility is a holistic approach. Your body is listening to all of your emotions, all of the time, not just the ones about fertility.

At the energetic level, creating what you want is about emotion. Your emotion is a manifestation and it is your signal that what you want is on its way.

At the physical level, feeling better is supportive of your body in general and your fertility specifically.

Of course, with all the ups and downs of infertility (not to mention the rest of life), feeling good requires a PhD in emotional shifting. Use whatever you can to shift how you are feeling in the moment.

Meditation, EFT, visualization, exercise, getting outside, reading a great book, listening to beautiful music — these are but a few of the tools you can use to create a shift.

Back to the original question: do you have to feel positive about your fertility all the time? Here’s where I suggest you start: put fertility to the side and simply concentrate on asking yourself the question: How do I feel right now? What can I be/do in this moment to feel even just a little bit better?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Emotions. Dealing with fertility issues creates so many emotions.

These emotions can wreck havoc with your desire to stay focused on what you want. Sometimes you know exactly why you’re feeling how you’re feeling; other times, emotions can just feel like a knot or a block, and you don’t know why you’re feeling that way.

At times like these, I like to use a breathing technique.

You can use your breath to help clear away your thoughts, or interrupt a downward spiral of emotion. Breathing techniques are wonderful because you can use them anytime, anywhere.

Try these breathing patterns to help you let go of whatever you are feeling and create the space you need to start on a different feeling path.

  1. Breathe in for a count of (4), hold your breath for a count of (8), and then blow out for a count of (7).
  2. Breathe in for a count of (4), hold your breath for a count of (16), and blow out for a count of (8).

Choose one of the patterns and do each cycle (3) times. As you are holding your breath, imagine your breath is reaching in and grabbing onto whatever you don’t want in your mind or your body, then you can blow it all away on your out breath.

How do you feel when you are finished?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

“Come out of the circle of time and into the circle of love.” —Rumi

The long term benefits to your fertility of a mind~body relaxation practice are numerous but not only your fertility benefits.

When you begin a relaxation or meditative practice, it guides you to create a completely separate space in your life. It is about stepping out of the day-to-day life and into a space that is serene, quiet and full of love: love for yourself, love for your body, and love for others in your life.

This place creates separation from whatever else is going on in your day-to-day world. In this place, you don’t have to say, “But everything is so hard in my life, how can I relax?” You get a chance to create, if you will, a completely new space with different rules and guidelines.

As you find it easier to create this place on your own, you will find the feelings spilling out and over into your daily life. Eventually the two pieces will merge — but they don’t have to at the beginning. So, there is no need to worry when at first you feel like you are able to create a 10-15 minute haven and then feel as if you are right back in the thick of things once you leave that haven. Keep practicing and it will get easier! Keep practicing and your fertility will be enhanced.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you aren’t receiving something that you’ve been working so hard to achieve, one of the aspects that can be “off” in your psyche is the concept of what it means to “want.”

Is it okay to “want”?

Do we all really deserve what we want?

Is it fair to say that everyone who “wants” a baby should receive one?

Many spiritual traditions and let’s face it, many parents and society in general, instill in us the message: it’s not okay to want. It’s selfish to want. You don’t always get what you want. Don’t get your hopes up.

But is it really true?

In my Spiritual journey, I’ve learned something completely to the opposite: wanting is what helps your soul evolve. As you develop new wants and allow yourself to align with them, you are developing and growing not just yourself, but the world as a whole.

These types of wants range from material to the esoteric.

Wants are driving your growth and what you are receiving. You’re literally wired to want.

“But, Jennifer,” you say, “I’ve wanted a baby for a long time now, why aren’t I receiving what I want?”

Sometimes it takes a while for wants to manifest in physical form. As humans, we like to give meaning, so we create beliefs about the fact that the baby isn’t present yet: “I must not deserve this.” Or, “I’m not good enough to deserve this.” Or, any other combination or permutation of those messages.

Here’s what I want you to realize: when you make a decision like that, you are literally working against your Self and your Soul. When you carry these beliefs deep within your system, the Universe is going to bring more experiences that match this belief.

You are setting up beliefs that make it even harder to get what you want. This, of course, tends to seem to prove the belief.

The place to start is knowing: “I deserve what I want. I choose to receive what I want.”

What other beliefs about wanting are you now ready to release?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Let’s say your car has a leak in the gas tank. You’ve now got a couple of options. You can either keep filling up that tank, okay with the fact that you are now getting something like five miles to the gallon, or you can get it repaired.

If the leak is small, perhaps you can continue to get by without the repair until you’re ready for a new car, worried and anxious the whole time because you’re not sure when the leak is going to be so big you’ll end up stranded by the side of the road.

Your car needs fuel flowing through its system to run properly. Your body is no different: your body needs its energy flowing freely to run properly.

In her groundbreaking book, “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom,” Christiane Northrup M.D. has this to say about the body issues that create infertility: “Fibroids, endometriosis, diseases of the ovaries, and other pelvic disorders are manifestations of blocked energy in the pelvis.”

She goes on to say, “Mental and emotional energy goes in and out of physical form regularly, bouncing on the continuum between energy and matter, particle and wave. Quite simply, emotional and mental energy can become physical in our bodies. When we have unresolved chronic emotional stress in a particular area of our life, this stress registers in our energy field as a disturbance that can manifest in physical illness.”

If you have been dealing with fertility issues without resolution, I highly encourage you to add a new approach: learn to heal your reproductive system from the inside out. Start the process of repairing the energy flows in your body. No matter what your diagnosis is, this healing process will help bring your body back to a state of flow and fertility.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

“True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment.”
—William Penn

Many of us fear silence. If we just keep pushing ahead, doing and constantly thinking, we can keep pushing away all the thoughts that scare and frighten us. What if this never changes? What if I never achieve what I am pursuing so hard? Why is life so unfair?

But constantly pushing and driving and ignoring those very thoughts isn’t sustainable. There is a breaking point — whether that breaking point shows up as depression, anxiety, or extreme fatigue.

When you add in a short time of relaxation and silence to your regular routine, you take the “edge” off those fearful thoughts. They no longer hold the power they used to. You improve your general physical and emotional health as well as your reproductive system.

Today, take five minutes to stop pushing forward and just be. Focus on your breath coming in and out of your body. Let any thoughts going through your mind gently float away like watching leaves going down a stream. If you have trouble completely emptying your mind, pick a word or phrase to focus on, “I am feeling peaceful,” “joy,” “quiet.” As you get more adept at finding the silence, lengthen out the time you spend in quiet. Notice how you feel as you allow yourself this gift everyday.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

The bonus fifth step in dealing with disappointment is stepping into a neutral emotional place. Different types of disappointment will have varying degrees of emotional intensity. Do not feel like you have to move from sadness and disappointment directly into positivity or hope. Yes, those emotions feel better and are a goal, but the first step is neutral.

If you were feeling really angry or sad, and disappointed, wouldn’t neutral feel better? Then, from neutral, you can move upwards towards hope.

Take the pressure off; don’t require yourself to go all the way to hope and belief from a place of disappointment. So many of my clients are so hard on themselves; they worry if they aren’t in a place of hope and belief that their stress will hamper their efforts of conceiving.

Each forward step you can make, the easier it is on your body. However, take just a moment and feel the relief that would come to your body and all her organs if you just allowed yourself to come to the place of neutral.

Each step of the process to release disappointment takes effort and can be challenging. Because of that, I’m going to give you EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statements proactively, or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment.

Even though I want to feel better, I simply can’t get there yet, and I choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have to feel hopeful, or I’ll be hurting my chances, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping Affirmations

I honor all my emotions
I choose to step into feeling neutral
I celebrate that I am able to shift my emotions this much
I know I will continue to feel better and better

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.