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There may not be another act that is as intimate as creating a baby.

Not only is physical intimacy required, but emotional intimacy is involved as well. Hopes and dreams for a Soul that isn’t even on the planet are intertwined with a deep desire for everything to be “okay” with the pregnancy and baby.

When infertility gets introduced into the baby making process, physical intimacy is often removed, but emotional intimacy skyrockets. Fear. Worry. Wonder. Anger. Hurt. Jealousy. Rage. Questioning. Sadness.

Emotions explode and intimacy suddenly feels overwhelming. Who really wants to get more intimate with what can feel like a raging river?

Often, the reaction is to seek refuge in the mind: how can I figure this out? What can I do to fix this problem? What steps do I need to take? I’ll do whatever it takes to make this happen.

Intimacy gets pushed to the side and action takes over.

And yet, when this happens, the true opportunity of intimacy is missed.

Infertility is a signal that your mind-body-spirit is out of balance. Infertility is an invitation to delve into a deeper understanding of the connection between your mind, your emotions, your connection to spirit, and your body.
Many mistake this opportunity as blame. As in, “This is my fault.”

I invite you to look at this through a different lens. This is a call from your Soul to bring you back into alignment. It’s a call for a more intimate understanding of your Self and a deep transformation that will bring you into a new way of communicating with your body and the world around you, as well as finding your path to becoming a Mother.

Ready to use the power of intimacy?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If you aren’t receiving the child you want, then you have some underlying beliefs that are impacting your ability to receive.

In my 17 years of experience in working with women to help them create the family they desire, I have noticed certain themes in these beliefs that were blocking their ability to conceive.

Body
Will it be safe for you to go through a pregnancy?
How hard will pregnancy be on your body image?

Sexuality
Beliefs developed from trauma or abuse.
Comfort with your body’s cycles.
Knowing that having sex is safe.

Feminine vs Masculine Energy
Are you able to receive?
Can you receive without feeling guilty or needing to prove you’re worthy first?
Can you exchange the driving, striving, pushing energy with allowing, receiving, and nurturing?

Baby’s Health
Fear the baby won’t be healthy
Significant fears and worries about being able to keep your child safe.

Family History
Wanting to be like / not like parents.

Work/Life Balance
Will you be able to be the parent you want to be and nurture what’s important to you as an individual, including career.

Relationships
Will a baby come between you and your partner?
Who do you want to be as a mother?

General Themes
Perfectionism.
Flow of life: is life hard / struggle vs. joy / ease — are you willing to allow what you want to come with joy and ease?

Sometimes treatment is enough to overcome the conflicting beliefs. But, if treatment hasn’t been helping… or if you want to take a more natural approach, learning your personal underlying blocks can be helpful.

Of course everyone is an individual. My invitation to you is to sit with the list and see what resonates and what comes up for you.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Deepak Chopra says: What you focus on expands.

This is a beautiful phrase to illustrate the universal energy principle called “Law of Attraction.”

This also illustrates the scientific understanding that whether you are thinking about a red ball or literally looking at a red ball, the same area of your brain is involved and doesn’t know the difference.

What does this have to do with creating your family?

When you get caught up in the day-to-day struggle with infertility or loss, your attention tends to be on what’s wrong with your body, what’s wrong with where you are in your life. And of course it does. How can you not notice the hurts that come up as a result of having problems creating your family?

At the same time, though, constant focus on what is wrong activates the flight or fight response in your body (which negatively impacts your reproductive system) as well as puts your cells in fear mode (which shuts down normal cell behavior).

Additionally, the Universe reflects back life experiences based on the emotion you are feeling. So, if you are feeling angry, you receive more life experiences, which create a feeling of anger. If you are feeling excited, you receive more life experiences, which create a feeling of excitement.

Please don’t let this create more worry and fear because there is a way through.

First step, be gentle with yourself. You do not need to be a Pollyanna — where nothing ever bothers you or worries you — in order to conceive.

You simply need to pay attention to how you are feeling and when you notice yourself starting to slip in a negative thought pattern, bring yourself back into at least a neutral state of being.

Second step, have an image or a mantra that you can turn to, which will help assist you into at least a neutral state of being. For example:

Mantras: No matter what happens, I’m going to be okay
The Universe really does have my back
Images: Create an image of something that feels good like:
Petting your cat or dog
Watching the sunrise
Floating on a raft in a pool
Sitting in a sidewalk café in your destination of choice

Third step, make a commitment to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want. When you find yourself in an emotional moment, ask yourself:

“Is this emotion based on current conditions or the conditions I want? In other words, am I focused on my fertility or my infertility?”

Simply asking the question is often enough to move you out of a spiral of thought which leads you to getting lost in thinking about what you don’t want.

Finally, have a tool that will help you address the sadness, fear, worry, and anxiety, which can arise when dealing with fertility challenges. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is my go-to resource for emotional healing and clearing.

The more you allow your consciousness to focus on fertility as opposed to infertility, the more you will open to the resources of the Universe as well as allow your body to come into full alignment with creating your family.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Success from a be-ing fertile approach perspective can show up in many ways. While many who have been trying to build their families for a very long time would say the only success that really matters is having a baby, I actually coach my clients to a different type of success first.

That success is: feeling good.

This past weekend, I received an e-mail from a woman who worked with me last year to share that she has been successful in conceiving (in fact, she’s 27 weeks pregnant). She has generously agreed to allow me to share her story with you.

I share it in two parts. The first part is the e-mail she sent to me after completing her 12-week program. It is written from the perspective of telling others what to expect if they decide to do the work; but more importantly, it shows the feeling state she was able to create for herself. This was her first success.

The second part is from the e-mail she sent sharing her pregnancy success. Notice how she was inspired to a “doing” step.

Aysha’s Story

Part I

After two and half years of trying for a baby, with nothing wrong with my husband and I medically, and trying to figure things out on my own by going down the alternative medicine path, I decided I needed to explore the mind body connection to see if there were any subconscious beliefs holding me back and try to uncover why this experience was happening to me. As this is my first major life crisis (and it’s a big one!), I realized I needed help on an emotional level and had also started to question where I fit into the world. Why was this happening to me on a spiritual level. I had never had any type of therapy of any kind before. I’m 39 years old. It took a bit of courage to reach out to a complete stranger in America, but after listening to a few of Jennifer’s calls, I felt comfortable enough to call and book the sessions, and I’m very glad I did.

Over 12 weeks we broke down the overwhelming emotions into bite size pieces where I was able to work through my feelings and beliefs, where they came from, and release them from my system. This is a really important part of the process because it’s such a complex and overwhelming thing to happen to you (as you are well aware if you are reading this), effecting so many parts of you and your life.

Jennifer is an expert. She asks the right questions and you feel safe getting all those horrible feelings out of your system. Also, she gives you a different and more healthy perspective on things, which makes all the difference. She helped me go through my first (and hopefully last) IVF cycle, which was very difficult for me as I had very negative views on doing IVF as I thought it would be going against mother nature and that it represented a failure of me as a woman.

As a result of our sessions, I had a particular breakthrough where I was able to face an experience from my past and let go of it, which I believe was holding me back. My body now knows that it’s “safe” to have a baby. As a result of this and the 12 weeks, I feel like a changed person. I no longer feel heavy with sadness, but much lighter with more joy and clarity than before, and now I am planning a big 40th birthday party in six weeks.

I am still on my journey to motherhood (and still have my sad moments) but I can relax and enjoy my life knowing it will come when it is meant to and my job is to have a great life in the meantime. A baby when it comes (and I know it will) will be the cherry on top of the already fabulous cake!

Part II

I wanted to share some amazing news with you. I am delighted to be able to tell you I am 27 weeks pregnant! It finally happened as I knew it eventually would. My last session with you was around April last year and I conceived in August. At the time, I felt happy and free, and was just enjoying being 40 and living my life. I was on a break from doing any more treatments (we still have one fertilized embryo on ice) but I wasn’t ready to put it back in and didn’t know when I would be.

I ended up conceiving naturally in the end (hurrah!) with the aid of Traditional Chinese Medicine. I was inspired to take it up again and after chatting with one of my Chinese colleagues in the kitchen at work, was referred to a place that was like being in China. I needed an interpreter.

I went to see the practitioner on day one of my cycle, and never ended up getting a period much to her surprise and mine! I went into it with an open mind, detached from the outcome, hoping, if anything, it would cure my horrible two days of period pain, agony, exhaustion, and if I fell pregnant, it would be a bonus. I sensed this was not normal (the two days of agony and clotting, etc.). It could be the reason why I wasn’t conceiving — a baby doesn’t grow in a cold womb according to Chinese Medicine. I ended up going once a week and drinking horrific tasting concoctions. The only thing on the list of ingredients that I could read that was in English was deer placenta! I also changed my diet to fit in with my Chinese medical imbalance. Only warm and hot food, nothing raw or cold, lots of red meat. Low and behold, it worked! On a month when I only had sex once, as my husband was away for most of it.

Another big change happened at the same time I conceived. I was offered an amazing new job, which I accepted. It was a huge step up from my previous role and a massive pay raise, working with an old friend of mine. I told them that I had just conceived and they were still happy to take me on. That week I felt like I had won the life lottery!

So now I am very pregnant and the baby is constantly moving all day and night. I am incredibly happy and content, and cannot wait to give birth. I wouldn’t say being pregnant and starting a new job was easy (far from it) but everything is on track for a beautiful and healthy baby, which will be due the beginning of May. I’m looking forward to giving birth, which I think will be a huge spiritual experience, a coming of age if you like bringing another soul into the world. I have no fear around this process and have complete trust in my body and nature.

So there you have it — the end of my fertility journey or maybe the beginning. I would like to thank you for the important part you played, which is one I will always be grateful for and never forget.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

When you fight against your infertility as opposed to opening to your fertility, you actively engage the fight or flight (stress) response, which negatively impacts the very system within your body you want to heal and engage.

So many of us are trained to “fight” for what we want. To push. To strive. To plan. To make it happen.

When it doesn’t work to create your family this way, it’s as if your whole world shifts on its axis.

How do you create something in a new way?

The first step comes in acknowledging that being is as important as doing.

Being could look like:

Meditation
Enjoying nature
Quietly watching a crackling fire
Yoga

Being can also look like noticing where you are already a creative, fertile being.

A good question to ask yourself every day is: “How do I choose to be today?”

When you include this question daily, you’ll be on your way to laying a great foundation for opening to your fertility.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

In order for healthy conception to occur, your mind~body~spirit system must be open, communicating, and supportive of your intellectual desire to conceive. Each aspect of the system can place ‘stop signs’ to conception. Now, that’s anthropomorphizing in a big way… and yet, our mind~body~spirit system is a very alive system that has many moving parts, all working together to bring your heart’s/soul’s desire to physical existence.

What gets in the way of this happening? Why WOULDN’T your system work towards creating your heart’s desire?

The simple answer to this question is: safety.

Your mind~body~spirit’s main job is to keep you safe and alive. It’s in easy to think of some forms of safety: keeping you from stepping out in front of a bus, or deciding not to slip into bath water that makes your foot reflexes recoil from water so hot you would burn your skin. But what if safety came from your belief that you can’t share your true thoughts? Or that it was more important that someone else be happy than you? Or if something comes easily to you, you don’t deserve it?

Where do these beliefs come from?

Life experience. And not necessarily even your OWN life experience.

Most of our beliefs are in place by the age of seven. Some people even say three. So as an adult, you’re making decisions and beliefs from a child’s point of view.

What’s more: the part of brain responsible for recording emotions begins developing from the second day of conception. Can you have emotions this early? Your Mother did. From very, very early on in your Mother’s pregnancy with you, you were picking up on her emotional experiences and her vibrations.

If there was some stress and then some relief and then some stress and some relief then you learned that when stress happens, peace isn’t far behind. But, if there was a lot of fear and worry and no relief — your very basic systems learned the world isn’t a place to be trusted.

By the age of three you already developed the “lens” you look at life through.

Add to that the other beliefs you may have learned as you are growing up: keep quiet. Children are a hassle. You can’t have what you want. These beliefs weren’t yours to start with; they simply came with your experience.

You might begin to think that you are doomed. Or I’m telling you to place blame squarely on someone else’s shoulders. Not at all.

The idea is to begin to take a look at your own beliefs about the world. Are they really true? What do you really want to believe? How could NOT getting pregnant seem like a safer solution to your body than GETTING pregnant?

That last question’s a doozy. At least it can be when you haven’t thought about conceiving from a mind~body~spirit perspective. The first step is to find the beliefs. The next step is to begin to build new beliefs and remove those stop signs your body thinks are keeping you safe.

You hold the power to change the “lens” through which you see the world. The “lens” that creates the beliefs that can create the stop signs to conception. How wonderful will it be to clean house of the beliefs that are creating things in your life that weren’t even yours to begin with!

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Emotions. Dealing with fertility issues creates so many emotions.

These emotions can wreck havoc with your desire to stay focused on what you want. Sometimes you know exactly why you’re feeling how you’re feeling; other times, emotions can just feel like a knot or a block, and you don’t know why you’re feeling that way.

At times like these, I like to use a breathing technique.

You can use your breath to help clear away your thoughts, or interrupt a downward spiral of emotion. Breathing techniques are wonderful because you can use them anytime, anywhere.

Try these breathing patterns to help you let go of whatever you are feeling and create the space you need to start on a different feeling path.

  1. Breathe in for a count of (4), hold your breath for a count of (8), and then blow out for a count of (7).
  2. Breathe in for a count of (4), hold your breath for a count of (16), and blow out for a count of (8).

Choose one of the patterns and do each cycle (3) times. As you are holding your breath, imagine your breath is reaching in and grabbing onto whatever you don’t want in your mind or your body, then you can blow it all away on your out breath.

How do you feel when you are finished?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

“Come out of the circle of time and into the circle of love.” —Rumi

The long term benefits to your fertility of a mind~body relaxation practice are numerous but not only your fertility benefits.

When you begin a relaxation or meditative practice, it guides you to create a completely separate space in your life. It is about stepping out of the day-to-day life and into a space that is serene, quiet and full of love: love for yourself, love for your body, and love for others in your life.

This place creates separation from whatever else is going on in your day-to-day world. In this place, you don’t have to say, “But everything is so hard in my life, how can I relax?” You get a chance to create, if you will, a completely new space with different rules and guidelines.

As you find it easier to create this place on your own, you will find the feelings spilling out and over into your daily life. Eventually the two pieces will merge — but they don’t have to at the beginning. So, there is no need to worry when at first you feel like you are able to create a 10-15 minute haven and then feel as if you are right back in the thick of things once you leave that haven. Keep practicing and it will get easier! Keep practicing and your fertility will be enhanced.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

I think that letting go is something that happens in waves, or in maybe layers is a better word. We have so many hopes, dreams, and emotions wrapped up in each part of us that we want to release, it almost has to happen in stages. Give yourself permission to let go of whatever piece you can today and know that tomorrow a little bit more will go and the next day a bit more…

Imagery for letting go in stages:

Imagine your mind and body is wrapped around whatever you wish to release as tightly as a new bud on a rose bush. This bud is completely wrapped with the green outer petals still tightly furled. It is so tightly furled that the true shape of the bud is still distorted. What would happen if those first leaves never released? What if the flower yet to be just stayed tightly curled around its core? How much energy is it taking just to be trying to hold so tightly to this position? Imagine your mind and body is slowly deciding to loosen, just a bit. Perhaps, even loosening seems scary, so they decide just not to hold on so hard, so the first decision is to release the muscles that are working so hard to hang on. Then, when you are ready, imagine that your mind and body are slowing unfurling from this issue, gently opening and releasing, and opening and releasing, slowly showing more and more of what’s inside, exposing the color, shape, and beauty of the flower within. Gently, and at your own pace, opening to new possibilities.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

We all want it at one time or another. THE answer. THE technique. THE “thing” to DO that will give you what you want. THE “thing” you can just DO—preferably, once —that will ease the pain once and for all that will immediately provide the results.

How many times, as you have tried to conceive your family, have you closed your eyes and wished or prayed for “the answer.” “Just TELL me what to do and I’ll DO it. I just need to know what to DO.”

In reality, though, this is a trap. Actually, it’s two traps.

Trap #1: If it isn’t big, it isn’t enough.

This is a trap because it keeps you from seeing the small changes you could make that together add up to the big result. You keep waiting for the big “thing” to do and ignore the other small messages your body is giving you.

Why do we keep doing this to ourselves?

Small seems too easy. Small seems insignificant. Small feels like you aren’t really trying. If there was something small that could really affect your fertility, everyone would be doing it by now.

This leads directly into trap #2.

Trap #2: DOING something external is more important than BEING something internally.

Our culture puts a lot of emphasis on physical action. Emotions and feelings are something that are “nice” to change, but not really important.

In your body, you can’t get further from the truth.

Your cells are always listening to your emotions and your feelings. Your emotions create the cellular environment that determines what aspect of your DNA is switched on or off. This same environment causes your cells to be either in growth mode or in protection/fear mode.

Your emotions and your feelings are a vital part of your fertility. They are a vital part of aging. They are a vital part of every aspect of your health.

“THE” Answer

Pay attention to the thoughts, emotions, and feelings that are swirling in your body. What can you DO today that will help shift those thoughts, emotions, and feelings that help you move from sadness, fear, anxiety, to a more neutral or positive state of mind?

What small shift in thinking will help with this? You don’t need to shift from feeling deep sadness or worry immediately to being a “Pollyanna” about your fertility. However, what is something small that you can change in your thoughts that will bring a sense of relief?

As you experience a small sense of relief here, and then another small sense of relief, and then yet another, you’ll begin to find it gets easier and easier. You’ll find you no longer have to work at it, the shifting will happen on it’s own. How different would day-to-day life be? How different would your cells be acting throughout your body? What impact could you make on your fertility?

You’ll notice I did use the word DO. Physical action is an important part—you won’t get pregnant simply by sitting and feeling good. However, as you make your small shifts in thought, you’ll be more drawn to the types of physical changes that will help you discover the best path to your family.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.