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“The body says what words cannot.”
— Martha Graham (1893 – 1991)

Martha Graham was undoubtedly talking about the body’s expression through dance.

But, think of the daily “dance” of your body throughout the extent of a day. What does your body tell you?

What are the aches and pains, the energy level, the general comfort level you have being inside “your skin” telling you that you need?

What is your body sharing with you through the imbalance manifesting as infertility?

Take a moment today, and listen to what your body is saying to, in ways other than words.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

A common thought in the Mind~Body~Spirit approach to conceiving is that it is helpful to “let go” or “surrender.” I have clients tell me all the time they think they need to surrender because there are so many stories of people “giving up” and then they get pregnant.

Surrendering or letting go is challenging because many people do believe they have to “give up” their desire for a baby.

I do teach surrender all the time with my clients, but here’s what I am asking them to surrender:

  • The constant monkey mind, which is always questioning and asking, “What do I do next?”
  • The attachment to needing a baby. What I mean by this is we often attach very specific meaning to having that baby. To some people it means they are no longer a failure, or have finally proved that they are enough. This creates mental tension. When you can embody the knowing that no matter what happens — baby or no baby — you are going to be okay. You move your entire physical body into a knowing of safety. This creates the emotional chemistry that allows your cells to be in growth mode, which in turn supports your innate fertility.
  • The attachment to how the baby comes. This often creates the most fear. I am not asking you to be comfortable with all avenues to creating a child. I am also not asking you to take any steps into any avenues that you aren’t ready to take (or may even need). However, when you place a limitation such as: I refuse to use medical intervention… or… I refuse to do IVF, etc., then you create a substantial amount of mental resistance, which takes a lot of energy to deflect. This draws down your available physical resources and creates the emotional chemistry that supports fear mode in your cells.

Attachment creates both emotional suffering and physiological changes within your body, which work against your fertility. Surrender is never asking you to give up your desire, simply your attachment to needing the baby to be happy.

Surrender is an evolution. Start today by becoming aware of what you are attaching to your desire to have a baby and how this baby comes to you. Take those questions softly and gently and see what arises.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

A simple Google search of the term “fertility help” yields 60,300,000 entries.

Can they all be helpful to you? Can they really give you the pregnancy success they promise?

When you have tried dozens out of the 60 million options without luck, it’s reasonable to become a bit jaded and cautious. How do you utilize products/services that will help you and release the rest?

Here are three steps to take, which will help you improve your own success.

  1. Spend time developing your own internal connection.You are your own unique constellation of cells. What works for your body may not work for someone else’s body and visa-versa. This is both empowering and completely overwhelming. How do you make decisions? Will somebody else’s success story carry over to you if you follow the same steps?

    Spend time getting quiet and learning to listen to your body’s yes/no response. While you could call this intuition, I believe it goes even deeper.

    You have your own individual connection with the Divine. When you learn to tune into, hear, and follow what your guidance is telling you, now you are able to discern whether a particular method, nutritional supplement, or physical activity will support your fertility.

    Read the research, read what others have said, and then put that information aside and tune into your guidance.

  2. Go all in.Once you’ve decided, go all in. Put all your focus on following the method. Believe in its success.

    If you spend time second guessing yourself, wondering if you have made the right choice, wondering how you’d be doing with a different choice or any other monkey mind chatter, you diminish your body’s ability to fully utilize the choice you have made.

    Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t get to change your mind, or a particular program/supplement, etc., will always be the right choice to follow. I’m not suggesting you but blind faith into a single action step or a single person.

    There is a difference between second guessing yourself and listening to your guidance. If you have spent time doing step #1, you will be able to discern whether you are simply feeling a little anxiety because you really want your baby and when you are getting an intuitive hit that it is time to transition to another method.

  3. Allow it to be a series of successes leading to your baby.Instant success (especially after all your years of trying) is highly desirable, right?

    At the same time, when you NEED THIS program/supplement/doctor/approach to work RIGHT NOW, you place incredible stress on your body at both the cellular and energetic levels. I understand it is easy to feel this month needs to be the month, especially if you are feeling time and/or budget issues.

    But, how would your decision making process improve if you listened to what your mind~body~spirit needs in this particular moment? Perhaps your emotions need support now, which will set you up to be ready for the body-based treatment you do in three months?

    Most often, success comes from a series of action steps. And again, success is augmented when you’ve spent some time cultivating your inner connection, so you can feel confident you are on your path to a baby.

No one method works for everyone. Trust yourself. Trust you are listening to your mind~body~spirit connection and know you are on your way to success.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Just last week I had a conversation with a community member who was anxious because she wasn’t able to keep positive thoughts about the outcome of her cycle all the time. Her fear was if she wasn’t able to keep those thoughts going, her cycle would end up failing.

In other words, thinking positive was the step that would *make* a pregnancy happen.

Depending on who you are, you might substitute any other action step: the right doctor, the right Chinese Medicine practitioner, the right diet, the right amount of sleep, the right amount of meditation, etc. Get the wrong formula and you won’t *make* the pregnancy happen.

It is not your job to make a pregnancy happen.

It is your job to receive a pregnancy.

Your job is to be in alignment with the state of being that allows pregnancy. When you use meditation, relaxation, yoga, nature hikes, acupuncture, herbs, nutrition, and yes, even assisted reproduction, you are putting your body into the being state to receive a pregnancy.

So, in any given moment, you get to ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking/feeling in alignment with receiving a pregnancy?”

You will know the answer is ‘yes’ if how you are thinking/feeling matches with how you would think and feel when the baby is present. If you will feel joyful when a baby is present, then feeling joyful is your job. When you are feeling joyful, then you are in receiving mode. If you’re not sure, then simply go with feeling “good.”

What’s really powerful about being in the receiving mode is that the steps to take to receive your baby unfold with ease and clarity.

This is so different than so many of the messages we’ve gotten about how to “go after” what we want: Work hard. No pain, no gain. Fight for what you want. Make it happen. Fertility simply doesn’t respond well to these kinds of concepts.

Take a moment and notice the difference between going to acupuncture because that is THE step that will MAKE a baby happen for you… and going to acupuncture because it helps you feel good in body~mind~spirit, and feeling good puts you in alignment with a baby.

The difference may feel subtle to you; however, I assure you the difference is powerful. Take a breath and release the heavy responsibility of *making* a pregnancy happen and instead, allow yourself to shift into receiving mode. Your baby is there.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Whether I’m speaking to a client or another professional who works with fertility, I’m always talking about the Mind~Body principle: How you feel matters to your fertility.

But what does this really mean? Does it mean you have to be positive about your fertility all the time? Well, yes and no.

Let me explain.

Your cells are constantly listening to the emotions within you in order to know how to respond. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between something you are experiencing in real time or simply thinking about it. Your emotions and thoughts — whether related to fertility or other areas of your life — impact your reproductive system.

My most pressing desire in my work with my clients is to start with simply feeling good in the moment; feeling peace, calm, even joy if we can get there. If we can get there by talking specifically about fertility, great, but if it means simply feeling good in general, that’s just as good.

Let me give you an example. I’d like to share an e-mail from a woman who participated in last week’s Mind, Body, Sprit Tools to Release Fear and Worry teleclass because I believe it reflects this exact point.

Jennifer,

I am in the process of preparing for a frozen embryo transfer. I have had many ups and downs in this fertility journey. Obviously I don’t know yet if the “dealing with fear and worry” workshop will “result as such” in a pregnancy but I can say I feel much better, much calmer, and generally okay. This in and of itself is a positive result. This process has been so fraught with unsettling emotions, the ability to feel good while going through a procedure is a new and positive development.

Thanks for a thoughtful workshop,

K.

PS: I used the “support from mother earth, love from spirit above” tool a few times yesterday having nothing to do with fertility.

Two aspects of this e-mail stood out to me. First, she celebrated feeling better — without knowing if it was going to have a specific effect on getting pregnant. While I know the ultimate desire is to be pregnant, you must give your body time to shift. Feeling good is the evidence you have that you are putting your body in its best condition to conceive.

Second, she used the tools we spoke about for emotions having nothing to do with fertility. A Mind~Body approach to fertility is a holistic approach. Your body is listening to all of your emotions, all of the time, not just the ones about fertility.

At the energetic level, creating what you want is about emotion. Your emotion is a manifestation and it is your signal that what you want is on its way.

At the physical level, feeling better is supportive of your body in general and your fertility specifically.

Of course, with all the ups and downs of infertility (not to mention the rest of life), feeling good requires a PhD in emotional shifting. Use whatever you can to shift how you are feeling in the moment.

Meditation, EFT, visualization, exercise, getting outside, reading a great book, listening to beautiful music — these are but a few of the tools you can use to create a shift.

Back to the original question: do you have to feel positive about your fertility all the time? Here’s where I suggest you start: put fertility to the side and simply concentrate on asking yourself the question: How do I feel right now? What can I be/do in this moment to feel even just a little bit better?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Which Way Street SignYou can have your mind focused in one of two general attitudes, as you are moving through the process of building your family:

  1. There is something WRONG here. This shouldn’t be happening. I need to figure out what’s wrong so I can fix it. I’m the only one who can solve this broken part of me and I have to keep pushing to do it.
  2. My system is out of balance, but I know inherently that I am a fertile woman. I don’t know how or when, but I’m going to be a Mother. I open to all the resources that will help me come back into balance.

When you focus on the first, the messages constantly activate the stress response in your body because you are constantly telling your body that there is something dangerous happening in your life. You also are focused in a ‘doing’ frame of mind.

When you focus on the second, you allow your body to be in a state of being, which amplifies its ability to heal and to be in alignment with the actions needed to open your fertility.

Switching from one mind focus to the other does take some perseverance because after all, dealing with challenges to building your family is emotional — and stressful.

Build your tool kit with all kinds of tools like relaxation exercises, emotion shifting tools, belief changers, awareness builders, etc., to help you keep coming back to the knowing that you are going to be a Mother to the family you desire.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Blank SignsHow often are you certain that you KNOW what’s going to happen?

I am not talking about the ‘crystal ball’ type of seeing the future. What I am talking about are the times when you are certain you know what the outcome of a situation is going to be:

If my FSH turns out over 10, I KNOW I’ll never be able to get pregnant.
If I don’t get this project done and done well, I’m going to get fired.
If I don’t go to this event, my friends are never going to forgive me.

So, I’ve dramatized the situations a little bit to make a point. Yours may be a little more subtle:

If I don’t get to sleep, tomorrow is going to be a disaster.
If I don’t get the cat to the vet soon, the vet is going to think I’m a terrible caretaker.
If I don’t get these phone calls made before bed, everyone is going to be angry at me.

Are all of these really true?

95% of the time—NO.

So why do we do this to ourselves?

  • Habit.
  • We think it will motivate us.
  • Feels true in the moment.
  • Caught up in the moment.
  • It keeps us moving.

While all of these are legitimate reasons, they themselves aren’t always true. Predicting the future, no matter how small an issue, simply leads to increasing the stress response in your body. A little stress response is helpful—too much takes you over the edge. Too much decreases your productivity and gets you caught in the loop of things seeming worse and worse.

What if you could let go of making predictions about the results of your actions? What if you could simply do the activities or tasks without making a dire consequence?

How much more effective do you think you could be without the extra weight and pressure of predicting the future?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

When you want something as powerfully as you want your family, your baby, you want an answer that is equally as powerful.

The tip I’m sharing with you today is powerful. This technique will create a ripple of healing throughout your body and reproductive system. But it’s going to seem too simple to have powerful effects. Before you read any further, make a commitment to do this technique for the next week.

The tip?

Several times throughout your day (I highly recommend setting your phone alarms), stop. Whatever you are doing, pause. Take 10 deep breaths.

Each time you do this, it is as if you are hitting the “reset” switch on your body. Every cell of your body completely releases and relaxes. When you do it consistently, your mind will clear, leaving you more open to make decisions you feel good about. You will create a deep sense of peace, which will allow you to engage the Spirit portion of the Mind~Body~Spirit continuum.

Using this technique naturally soothes your reproductive system and gives any ART you are doing a fertile ground from which to work.

I’d love to hear your results.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you are feeling sad or anxious, or any other negative emotion because of what’s happening with your fertility, those feelings are created from two different sources.

First, the very obvious: it’s painful to constantly seek something that keeps not happening. It’s heart wrenching to not have your baby yet.

Second, the not as obvious: what you believe about yourself because you don’t yet have a baby.

While dealing with the first is important, healing those emotions tends to be short lasting unless you also heal the second. Kind of like putting a Band-Aid over a broken bone; the support will help it feel better for a while, but anytime something moves the Band-Aid, the pain will come right back.

Let me give you an example.

In my work with clients this week, the same theme has come up in many conversations:

“I’m afraid if I don’t ever have a baby I’m going to end up being a bitter old woman.”

When this fear is running in the back of your mind, anytime something negative happens in relationship to building your family, not only do you feel emotion because of the present situation, you also feel the pain of the fear that you are going to be a bitter old woman. All emotions in the present become magnified.

Using a Mind~Body approach, you can uncover these underlying thoughts and beliefs, which fuel emotions of your present time experiences. As you heal the underlying thoughts and beliefs, you have more peace in your body, less underlying conflict, which touches off the fight or flight response, and gives you more resources to handle the daily ups and downs of building your family.

If you are willing, I invite you to take a couple of minutes and either write this question in a journal or let it sit lightly in your consciousness and see what arises:

What do I believe about myself because of the challenge I’ve had creating my family?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you aren’t receiving something that you’ve been working so hard to achieve, one of the aspects that can be “off” in your psyche is the concept of what it means to “want.”

Is it okay to “want”?

Do we all really deserve what we want?

Is it fair to say that everyone who “wants” a baby should receive one?

Many spiritual traditions and let’s face it, many parents and society in general, instill in us the message: it’s not okay to want. It’s selfish to want. You don’t always get what you want. Don’t get your hopes up.

But is it really true?

In my Spiritual journey, I’ve learned something completely to the opposite: wanting is what helps your soul evolve. As you develop new wants and allow yourself to align with them, you are developing and growing not just yourself, but the world as a whole.

These types of wants range from material to the esoteric.

Wants are driving your growth and what you are receiving. You’re literally wired to want.

“But, Jennifer,” you say, “I’ve wanted a baby for a long time now, why aren’t I receiving what I want?”

Sometimes it takes a while for wants to manifest in physical form. As humans, we like to give meaning, so we create beliefs about the fact that the baby isn’t present yet: “I must not deserve this.” Or, “I’m not good enough to deserve this.” Or, any other combination or permutation of those messages.

Here’s what I want you to realize: when you make a decision like that, you are literally working against your Self and your Soul. When you carry these beliefs deep within your system, the Universe is going to bring more experiences that match this belief.

You are setting up beliefs that make it even harder to get what you want. This, of course, tends to seem to prove the belief.

The place to start is knowing: “I deserve what I want. I choose to receive what I want.”

What other beliefs about wanting are you now ready to release?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.