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Do you find yourself frustrated because a Mind~Body approach “doesn’t work”?

You’ve done it all. The relaxation. The affirmations. The visualizing. And you still don’t have your baby.

What’s the missing key?

Often, we make the decision that we’re the missing key — but in a negative way.

We are somehow broken, defective, or out of favor with the Divine (Spirit, God, Goddess). The Truth that we’ve cleverly hidden from the rest of the world is finally on view for all to see — we aren’t enough and the fact that there isn’t a baby is the final physical evidence.

All of these convoluted thoughts is one of the reasons infertility is so painful. Not only do you not have the child you want, but you use it as proof to beat yourself up.

The fact of the matter is, the key to allowing a Mind~Body~Spirit focus to bring you the baby you want is simpler than you think.

Consistency.

Each day we have somewhere in the neighborhood of 60,000 thoughts.

60,000 opportunities to take us to a Zen or stressful state of mind.
60,000 opportunities to put our bodies in a place of growth or fear.
60,000 opportunities to create a relax signal or a danger signal.

Depending on your choices, you are either placing your body in a state of alignment with fertility or with infertility.

Perfection is NOT required.

If you can take 51% of the opportunities to move toward peace, Zen, or growth, you are well on your way to creating an internal environment that is in alignment with fertility.

If you take 51% of the opportunities to surrender, let go, trust, open to receive, expect what you want, amplify your fertility, or play in the present moment (all pillars of Be-ing Fertile), you are well on your way to the consistency that will powerfully impact your fertility.

Is it simple? Perhaps.
Is it easy? No.

We have a life time of habits of thought that take us to feeling fear, worry, anxiety, and more.

So what do you do? Use all the Mind~Body~Spirit tools you possibly can:

Meditations
Yoga
Breathing Exercises
Guided Imagery
EFT (to release the patterns of thought that create fear, worry, anxiety)
Acupuncture

All of these will help you create a consistency of thought that will bring your Mind~Body~Spirit into harmony, build your Be-ing Fertile state of being, and align you with your baby.

Remember, I am asking you for consistency, not perfection. You do not need to be the master on the mountaintop to conceive.

I ask you to simply become aware of how you are directing your 60,000 thoughts each day and set the intention that 51% of them bring you towards Be-ing Fertile.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

A simple Google search of the term “fertility help” yields 60,300,000 entries.

Can they all be helpful to you? Can they really give you the pregnancy success they promise?

When you have tried dozens out of the 60 million options without luck, it’s reasonable to become a bit jaded and cautious. How do you utilize products/services that will help you and release the rest?

Here are three steps to take, which will help you improve your own success.

  1. Spend time developing your own internal connection.You are your own unique constellation of cells. What works for your body may not work for someone else’s body and visa-versa. This is both empowering and completely overwhelming. How do you make decisions? Will somebody else’s success story carry over to you if you follow the same steps?

    Spend time getting quiet and learning to listen to your body’s yes/no response. While you could call this intuition, I believe it goes even deeper.

    You have your own individual connection with the Divine. When you learn to tune into, hear, and follow what your guidance is telling you, now you are able to discern whether a particular method, nutritional supplement, or physical activity will support your fertility.

    Read the research, read what others have said, and then put that information aside and tune into your guidance.

  2. Go all in.Once you’ve decided, go all in. Put all your focus on following the method. Believe in its success.

    If you spend time second guessing yourself, wondering if you have made the right choice, wondering how you’d be doing with a different choice or any other monkey mind chatter, you diminish your body’s ability to fully utilize the choice you have made.

    Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t get to change your mind, or a particular program/supplement, etc., will always be the right choice to follow. I’m not suggesting you but blind faith into a single action step or a single person.

    There is a difference between second guessing yourself and listening to your guidance. If you have spent time doing step #1, you will be able to discern whether you are simply feeling a little anxiety because you really want your baby and when you are getting an intuitive hit that it is time to transition to another method.

  3. Allow it to be a series of successes leading to your baby.Instant success (especially after all your years of trying) is highly desirable, right?

    At the same time, when you NEED THIS program/supplement/doctor/approach to work RIGHT NOW, you place incredible stress on your body at both the cellular and energetic levels. I understand it is easy to feel this month needs to be the month, especially if you are feeling time and/or budget issues.

    But, how would your decision making process improve if you listened to what your mind~body~spirit needs in this particular moment? Perhaps your emotions need support now, which will set you up to be ready for the body-based treatment you do in three months?

    Most often, success comes from a series of action steps. And again, success is augmented when you’ve spent some time cultivating your inner connection, so you can feel confident you are on your path to a baby.

No one method works for everyone. Trust yourself. Trust you are listening to your mind~body~spirit connection and know you are on your way to success.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” — Victor Frankel

Our human nature drives to try to “known” solutions before doing something else. It’s not that we only want an easy solution; it’s more about: how can you try something you don’t know about?

Yet, when a big problem persists, it’s time to find out what you didn’t know you didn’t know.

Mind~Body~Spirit solutions for fertility issues typically fall into the “didn’t know you didn’t know” category. Taking on a M~B~S view of fertility requires moving from believing doctors and medical science have ALL the answers to uncovering your own role in your health.

You have probably made steps to taking care of your own health in the areas of diet and exercise before. However, what about listening to the deeper messages from your body?

Here’s something to think about: In addition to being painful, excruciatingly frustrating, depressing, sad, and (add your current emotion here), infertility is also a message to you from your body.

A message energy is blocked somewhere in your body. A message your body is trying to get your attention in the only way it knows how. A message that when you really hear it; will tell you what to do to heal.

Christiane Northrup, M.D. in “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” describes this eloquently:

“Every thought we think has a biochemical equivalent. Every emotion we feel has a biochemical equivalent. One of my colleagues says, ‘The mind is the space between the cells.’ So when the part of your mind that is your uterus talks to you, through pain or excessive bleeding, are you prepared to listen to it?”

This can be quite a challenge to get your mind wrapped around. We typically aren’t taught to listen to our bodies. We’re taught to cover up symptoms with Tylenol or Tums. We’re taught to push through our body’s pain. Not with malicious intent — but from a disconnected understanding of how the body works.

I invite you to begin to step up to this new challenge to change yourself. Begin to start thinking of all of the physical symptoms in your body — painful periods, short luteal phases, muscle pain, headaches, and digestive issues — as messages from your body.

Take time to quiet your mind, take a couple of deep breaths, and then drop your awareness down into your body and ask, “What do you want me to know?”

You’ll be amazed at what you hear once you start listening.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If you were to add up the thoughts you think during any given day, do you think the average would be more about what you want or what you don’t want?

If you are thinking about what you want, do you find you are thinking those thoughts from a place of expectation or yearning?

If you can hold your thoughts of what you want from a place of expectation for at least 51% of the time, you are creating momentum towards what you want. Any percentage above 51%, you are accelerating your momentum.

I’m hopeful you truly absorbed the 51%. What this means is: you don’t have to be perfect in your thoughts. You simply have to be intentional.

How do you hold thoughts of what you want when you’ve been trying to have a baby for so long?

Allow your emotions to lead the way.

Let me give you an example.

How will having a baby make you feel? Happy? Relieved? Ecstatic? Maternal? Joyful?

Once you have your feeling state identified, set an intention each morning to create this emotional state throughout the day. This intention sets the ball rolling within your subconscious to bring evidence to your conscious mind that will support your intention.

You’ll begin to be aware of all the events happening within your day-to-day life that already bring you this emotion. As you build your experience of the emotion, you will build your expectation that you will continue to have more experiences with that emotion.

As your expectation builds, two extraordinary changes happen. First, you create a cascade of physiological changes within your body that support fertility. Second, you shift your ability to receive your desires from the universe.

Ready to set your intention?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Success from a be-ing fertile approach perspective can show up in many ways. While many who have been trying to build their families for a very long time would say the only success that really matters is having a baby, I actually coach my clients to a different type of success first.

That success is: feeling good.

This past weekend, I received an e-mail from a woman who worked with me last year to share that she has been successful in conceiving (in fact, she’s 27 weeks pregnant). She has generously agreed to allow me to share her story with you.

I share it in two parts. The first part is the e-mail she sent to me after completing her 12-week program. It is written from the perspective of telling others what to expect if they decide to do the work; but more importantly, it shows the feeling state she was able to create for herself. This was her first success.

The second part is from the e-mail she sent sharing her pregnancy success. Notice how she was inspired to a “doing” step.

Aysha’s Story

Part I

After two and half years of trying for a baby, with nothing wrong with my husband and I medically, and trying to figure things out on my own by going down the alternative medicine path, I decided I needed to explore the mind body connection to see if there were any subconscious beliefs holding me back and try to uncover why this experience was happening to me. As this is my first major life crisis (and it’s a big one!), I realized I needed help on an emotional level and had also started to question where I fit into the world. Why was this happening to me on a spiritual level. I had never had any type of therapy of any kind before. I’m 39 years old. It took a bit of courage to reach out to a complete stranger in America, but after listening to a few of Jennifer’s calls, I felt comfortable enough to call and book the sessions, and I’m very glad I did.

Over 12 weeks we broke down the overwhelming emotions into bite size pieces where I was able to work through my feelings and beliefs, where they came from, and release them from my system. This is a really important part of the process because it’s such a complex and overwhelming thing to happen to you (as you are well aware if you are reading this), effecting so many parts of you and your life.

Jennifer is an expert. She asks the right questions and you feel safe getting all those horrible feelings out of your system. Also, she gives you a different and more healthy perspective on things, which makes all the difference. She helped me go through my first (and hopefully last) IVF cycle, which was very difficult for me as I had very negative views on doing IVF as I thought it would be going against mother nature and that it represented a failure of me as a woman.

As a result of our sessions, I had a particular breakthrough where I was able to face an experience from my past and let go of it, which I believe was holding me back. My body now knows that it’s “safe” to have a baby. As a result of this and the 12 weeks, I feel like a changed person. I no longer feel heavy with sadness, but much lighter with more joy and clarity than before, and now I am planning a big 40th birthday party in six weeks.

I am still on my journey to motherhood (and still have my sad moments) but I can relax and enjoy my life knowing it will come when it is meant to and my job is to have a great life in the meantime. A baby when it comes (and I know it will) will be the cherry on top of the already fabulous cake!

Part II

I wanted to share some amazing news with you. I am delighted to be able to tell you I am 27 weeks pregnant! It finally happened as I knew it eventually would. My last session with you was around April last year and I conceived in August. At the time, I felt happy and free, and was just enjoying being 40 and living my life. I was on a break from doing any more treatments (we still have one fertilized embryo on ice) but I wasn’t ready to put it back in and didn’t know when I would be.

I ended up conceiving naturally in the end (hurrah!) with the aid of Traditional Chinese Medicine. I was inspired to take it up again and after chatting with one of my Chinese colleagues in the kitchen at work, was referred to a place that was like being in China. I needed an interpreter.

I went to see the practitioner on day one of my cycle, and never ended up getting a period much to her surprise and mine! I went into it with an open mind, detached from the outcome, hoping, if anything, it would cure my horrible two days of period pain, agony, exhaustion, and if I fell pregnant, it would be a bonus. I sensed this was not normal (the two days of agony and clotting, etc.). It could be the reason why I wasn’t conceiving — a baby doesn’t grow in a cold womb according to Chinese Medicine. I ended up going once a week and drinking horrific tasting concoctions. The only thing on the list of ingredients that I could read that was in English was deer placenta! I also changed my diet to fit in with my Chinese medical imbalance. Only warm and hot food, nothing raw or cold, lots of red meat. Low and behold, it worked! On a month when I only had sex once, as my husband was away for most of it.

Another big change happened at the same time I conceived. I was offered an amazing new job, which I accepted. It was a huge step up from my previous role and a massive pay raise, working with an old friend of mine. I told them that I had just conceived and they were still happy to take me on. That week I felt like I had won the life lottery!

So now I am very pregnant and the baby is constantly moving all day and night. I am incredibly happy and content, and cannot wait to give birth. I wouldn’t say being pregnant and starting a new job was easy (far from it) but everything is on track for a beautiful and healthy baby, which will be due the beginning of May. I’m looking forward to giving birth, which I think will be a huge spiritual experience, a coming of age if you like bringing another soul into the world. I have no fear around this process and have complete trust in my body and nature.

So there you have it — the end of my fertility journey or maybe the beginning. I would like to thank you for the important part you played, which is one I will always be grateful for and never forget.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

“The present moment is significant, not as the bridge between past and future, but by reason of its contents, which can fill our emptiness and become ours, if we are capable of receiving them” — Dag Hammarskjold

Heart in CloudsWhen you are working on building your family, there can be a tremendous pull to re-live past mistakes or past hurts (so they don’t happen again), or think about what might happen in the future.

However, when you spend time re-living the past or putting yourself out into the future, you leave out the time when you can truly experience life. Traveling forward or backward in time leaves you feeling lost and empty as soon as you come back to present day.

When you spend time truly engaging in this moment right here right now, you are giving yourself the opportunity to fill up.

Imagine spending the day thinking about what decision you should make, or worrying about the outcome of the latest test you’ve had. When you crawl into bed at night and think back over the day, how are you going to feel? Will it feel like a “successful” day? One filled with great moments? Or is it going to feel like another “lost” day. A day where no movement happened? One more day that has been lost to the struggle to conceive your family.

Now imagine spending a good portion of the day engaged in the moment. Feeling the emotions that come up. Noticing the world around you — really being engaged in what’s happening. When you crawl into bed, how will it feel?

You will need to practice present moment living to really know, but I can share a couple of outcomes you can expect. First, you are going to feel more alive than you have felt in a long time. And, your body and your fertility will respond to that new good feeling place.

Ready to make the decision to live in this moment and fill yourself up?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Blank SignsHow often are you certain that you KNOW what’s going to happen?

I am not talking about the ‘crystal ball’ type of seeing the future. What I am talking about are the times when you are certain you know what the outcome of a situation is going to be:

If my FSH turns out over 10, I KNOW I’ll never be able to get pregnant.
If I don’t get this project done and done well, I’m going to get fired.
If I don’t go to this event, my friends are never going to forgive me.

So, I’ve dramatized the situations a little bit to make a point. Yours may be a little more subtle:

If I don’t get to sleep, tomorrow is going to be a disaster.
If I don’t get the cat to the vet soon, the vet is going to think I’m a terrible caretaker.
If I don’t get these phone calls made before bed, everyone is going to be angry at me.

Are all of these really true?

95% of the time—NO.

So why do we do this to ourselves?

  • Habit.
  • We think it will motivate us.
  • Feels true in the moment.
  • Caught up in the moment.
  • It keeps us moving.

While all of these are legitimate reasons, they themselves aren’t always true. Predicting the future, no matter how small an issue, simply leads to increasing the stress response in your body. A little stress response is helpful—too much takes you over the edge. Too much decreases your productivity and gets you caught in the loop of things seeming worse and worse.

What if you could let go of making predictions about the results of your actions? What if you could simply do the activities or tasks without making a dire consequence?

How much more effective do you think you could be without the extra weight and pressure of predicting the future?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Suspended Animation: (noun) The temporary cessation of most vital functions without death, as in a dormant seed or a hibernating animal.

As you are waiting for your baby, does it feel like you are in a constant state of suspended animation? “How can I plan anything? A vacation, a job change, a move, the next stage of my life?”

When I’ve been in this state of suspended animation, I describe it as feeling as if I am frozen in the middle of a clear water lake, arms and legs outstretched, wanting to run and scream, and yet nothing moves. I can see everything that I want around me, and yet I can’t get there. Endless winter.

If you find yourself in this suspended animation because of fertility, often the first response is to fight against the suspension. To push into action. Research. Look for a new doctor, nutritionist, energy healer, etc. Rail against God. Push even harder. Strive even more. Feed the emotions that scream, “This ISN’T FAIR!”

Of course you do. Because it’s a helpless state.

And yet, even as you are pushing against, your whole system is letting you know that this isn’t what it wants.

So instead, when you are in this state, here’s what I want you to remember: Even when winter has its icy grip all around you, important work is being done inside. Without winter, without the resting phase, organisms burn out.

Spring always returns.

How do you make it through a suspended animation phase to that metaphorical spring? By choosing practices that match the phase: BEING practices. Practices that fuel your body.

Time in nature. Relaxation practice. Meditation. Journaling. Long walks. Being in the present moment. Appreciating your body. Playing. Being creative. Honoring and acknowledging that part within you that craves action and movement. Letting that part know that time is coming. Then coming back to a BEING practice.

If you take this approach instead of pushing against the stagnation, you’ll become aware of the signs telling you the suspended animation state is ending, you’ll become aware of the inspired actions that are just right for you in this moment. You’ll know when it’s time to take the next step.

Those signs, like the first hints of green shoots working their way out of the ground, are easy to miss if you are perpetually looking 10 steps ahead and needing action and movement.

Take the time to be — even when it feels helpless and painful — and know that your spring, your baby, is on its way.

Green Shoots

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

When you want something as powerfully as you want your family, your baby, you want an answer that is equally as powerful.

The tip I’m sharing with you today is powerful. This technique will create a ripple of healing throughout your body and reproductive system. But it’s going to seem too simple to have powerful effects. Before you read any further, make a commitment to do this technique for the next week.

The tip?

Several times throughout your day (I highly recommend setting your phone alarms), stop. Whatever you are doing, pause. Take 10 deep breaths.

Each time you do this, it is as if you are hitting the “reset” switch on your body. Every cell of your body completely releases and relaxes. When you do it consistently, your mind will clear, leaving you more open to make decisions you feel good about. You will create a deep sense of peace, which will allow you to engage the Spirit portion of the Mind~Body~Spirit continuum.

Using this technique naturally soothes your reproductive system and gives any ART you are doing a fertile ground from which to work.

I’d love to hear your results.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you are feeling sad or anxious, or any other negative emotion because of what’s happening with your fertility, those feelings are created from two different sources.

First, the very obvious: it’s painful to constantly seek something that keeps not happening. It’s heart wrenching to not have your baby yet.

Second, the not as obvious: what you believe about yourself because you don’t yet have a baby.

While dealing with the first is important, healing those emotions tends to be short lasting unless you also heal the second. Kind of like putting a Band-Aid over a broken bone; the support will help it feel better for a while, but anytime something moves the Band-Aid, the pain will come right back.

Let me give you an example.

In my work with clients this week, the same theme has come up in many conversations:

“I’m afraid if I don’t ever have a baby I’m going to end up being a bitter old woman.”

When this fear is running in the back of your mind, anytime something negative happens in relationship to building your family, not only do you feel emotion because of the present situation, you also feel the pain of the fear that you are going to be a bitter old woman. All emotions in the present become magnified.

Using a Mind~Body approach, you can uncover these underlying thoughts and beliefs, which fuel emotions of your present time experiences. As you heal the underlying thoughts and beliefs, you have more peace in your body, less underlying conflict, which touches off the fight or flight response, and gives you more resources to handle the daily ups and downs of building your family.

If you are willing, I invite you to take a couple of minutes and either write this question in a journal or let it sit lightly in your consciousness and see what arises:

What do I believe about myself because of the challenge I’ve had creating my family?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.