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A common thought in the Mind~Body~Spirit approach to conceiving is that it is helpful to “let go” or “surrender.” I have clients tell me all the time they think they need to surrender because there are so many stories of people “giving up” and then they get pregnant.

Surrendering or letting go is challenging because many people do believe they have to “give up” their desire for a baby.

I do teach surrender all the time with my clients, but here’s what I am asking them to surrender:

  • The constant monkey mind, which is always questioning and asking, “What do I do next?”
  • The attachment to needing a baby. What I mean by this is we often attach very specific meaning to having that baby. To some people it means they are no longer a failure, or have finally proved that they are enough. This creates mental tension. When you can embody the knowing that no matter what happens — baby or no baby — you are going to be okay. You move your entire physical body into a knowing of safety. This creates the emotional chemistry that allows your cells to be in growth mode, which in turn supports your innate fertility.
  • The attachment to how the baby comes. This often creates the most fear. I am not asking you to be comfortable with all avenues to creating a child. I am also not asking you to take any steps into any avenues that you aren’t ready to take (or may even need). However, when you place a limitation such as: I refuse to use medical intervention… or… I refuse to do IVF, etc., then you create a substantial amount of mental resistance, which takes a lot of energy to deflect. This draws down your available physical resources and creates the emotional chemistry that supports fear mode in your cells.

Attachment creates both emotional suffering and physiological changes within your body, which work against your fertility. Surrender is never asking you to give up your desire, simply your attachment to needing the baby to be happy.

Surrender is an evolution. Start today by becoming aware of what you are attaching to your desire to have a baby and how this baby comes to you. Take those questions softly and gently and see what arises.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If you were to add up the thoughts you think during any given day, do you think the average would be more about what you want or what you don’t want?

If you are thinking about what you want, do you find you are thinking those thoughts from a place of expectation or yearning?

If you can hold your thoughts of what you want from a place of expectation for at least 51% of the time, you are creating momentum towards what you want. Any percentage above 51%, you are accelerating your momentum.

I’m hopeful you truly absorbed the 51%. What this means is: you don’t have to be perfect in your thoughts. You simply have to be intentional.

How do you hold thoughts of what you want when you’ve been trying to have a baby for so long?

Allow your emotions to lead the way.

Let me give you an example.

How will having a baby make you feel? Happy? Relieved? Ecstatic? Maternal? Joyful?

Once you have your feeling state identified, set an intention each morning to create this emotional state throughout the day. This intention sets the ball rolling within your subconscious to bring evidence to your conscious mind that will support your intention.

You’ll begin to be aware of all the events happening within your day-to-day life that already bring you this emotion. As you build your experience of the emotion, you will build your expectation that you will continue to have more experiences with that emotion.

As your expectation builds, two extraordinary changes happen. First, you create a cascade of physiological changes within your body that support fertility. Second, you shift your ability to receive your desires from the universe.

Ready to set your intention?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Suspended Animation: (noun) The temporary cessation of most vital functions without death, as in a dormant seed or a hibernating animal.

As you are waiting for your baby, does it feel like you are in a constant state of suspended animation? “How can I plan anything? A vacation, a job change, a move, the next stage of my life?”

When I’ve been in this state of suspended animation, I describe it as feeling as if I am frozen in the middle of a clear water lake, arms and legs outstretched, wanting to run and scream, and yet nothing moves. I can see everything that I want around me, and yet I can’t get there. Endless winter.

If you find yourself in this suspended animation because of fertility, often the first response is to fight against the suspension. To push into action. Research. Look for a new doctor, nutritionist, energy healer, etc. Rail against God. Push even harder. Strive even more. Feed the emotions that scream, “This ISN’T FAIR!”

Of course you do. Because it’s a helpless state.

And yet, even as you are pushing against, your whole system is letting you know that this isn’t what it wants.

So instead, when you are in this state, here’s what I want you to remember: Even when winter has its icy grip all around you, important work is being done inside. Without winter, without the resting phase, organisms burn out.

Spring always returns.

How do you make it through a suspended animation phase to that metaphorical spring? By choosing practices that match the phase: BEING practices. Practices that fuel your body.

Time in nature. Relaxation practice. Meditation. Journaling. Long walks. Being in the present moment. Appreciating your body. Playing. Being creative. Honoring and acknowledging that part within you that craves action and movement. Letting that part know that time is coming. Then coming back to a BEING practice.

If you take this approach instead of pushing against the stagnation, you’ll become aware of the signs telling you the suspended animation state is ending, you’ll become aware of the inspired actions that are just right for you in this moment. You’ll know when it’s time to take the next step.

Those signs, like the first hints of green shoots working their way out of the ground, are easy to miss if you are perpetually looking 10 steps ahead and needing action and movement.

Take the time to be — even when it feels helpless and painful — and know that your spring, your baby, is on its way.

Green Shoots

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

When you want something as powerfully as you want your family, your baby, you want an answer that is equally as powerful.

The tip I’m sharing with you today is powerful. This technique will create a ripple of healing throughout your body and reproductive system. But it’s going to seem too simple to have powerful effects. Before you read any further, make a commitment to do this technique for the next week.

The tip?

Several times throughout your day (I highly recommend setting your phone alarms), stop. Whatever you are doing, pause. Take 10 deep breaths.

Each time you do this, it is as if you are hitting the “reset” switch on your body. Every cell of your body completely releases and relaxes. When you do it consistently, your mind will clear, leaving you more open to make decisions you feel good about. You will create a deep sense of peace, which will allow you to engage the Spirit portion of the Mind~Body~Spirit continuum.

Using this technique naturally soothes your reproductive system and gives any ART you are doing a fertile ground from which to work.

I’d love to hear your results.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

One of the advantages of using a Mind~Body approach to healing your fertility is that this approach is very personal to you. You are connecting and listening to what your body is telling you, you are paying attention to the emotions and feelings that are present for you, you are “feeding” your body with images of what you want.

However, this can lead to a sneaky new belief: I am the one who has to create this baby. I have to make sure I’m doing all the right things for my body. I have to make sure to visualize at the right time. I have to pay attention to everything. I have to… (fill in the blank).

I say this belief is sneaky because discovering the power you have in relationship to your body is SO important. However, when you want something as much as a child, you want to do everything you can, and it becomes easy to cross the line. Meaning, you end up trying to control your body and its processes instead of listening and working with them.

All this does is create more stress in your Mind~Body~Spirit system.

Your job is to listen to your body. To allow your emotions to flow. To shift your thoughts and feelings. To follow the inspired actions that arise as you listen. To be open and allow your body to do her work.

When you are in this place of allowing, you open to your deep wisdom, your connection with Spirit, the mystery portion of conceiving. This is where conception happens.

Your job is to “till the soil.” Spirit’s job is to “plant the seed.”

So tune into the powerful Mind~Body connection with whatever tools resonate with you. Feel your body coming into alignment with your deep connection to Spirit. Whenever you sense yourself tiptoeing over the line into wanting to control Spirit’s job, come back to your tools. Come back into allowing.

Now you have truly found the power of a Mind~Body approach.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you aren’t receiving something that you’ve been working so hard to achieve, one of the aspects that can be “off” in your psyche is the concept of what it means to “want.”

Is it okay to “want”?

Do we all really deserve what we want?

Is it fair to say that everyone who “wants” a baby should receive one?

Many spiritual traditions and let’s face it, many parents and society in general, instill in us the message: it’s not okay to want. It’s selfish to want. You don’t always get what you want. Don’t get your hopes up.

But is it really true?

In my Spiritual journey, I’ve learned something completely to the opposite: wanting is what helps your soul evolve. As you develop new wants and allow yourself to align with them, you are developing and growing not just yourself, but the world as a whole.

These types of wants range from material to the esoteric.

Wants are driving your growth and what you are receiving. You’re literally wired to want.

“But, Jennifer,” you say, “I’ve wanted a baby for a long time now, why aren’t I receiving what I want?”

Sometimes it takes a while for wants to manifest in physical form. As humans, we like to give meaning, so we create beliefs about the fact that the baby isn’t present yet: “I must not deserve this.” Or, “I’m not good enough to deserve this.” Or, any other combination or permutation of those messages.

Here’s what I want you to realize: when you make a decision like that, you are literally working against your Self and your Soul. When you carry these beliefs deep within your system, the Universe is going to bring more experiences that match this belief.

You are setting up beliefs that make it even harder to get what you want. This, of course, tends to seem to prove the belief.

The place to start is knowing: “I deserve what I want. I choose to receive what I want.”

What other beliefs about wanting are you now ready to release?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

As humans, we crave meaning. We need to know WHY something is happening. Perhaps it’s the thought that if we know the “why,” we’ll know the “how” to solve the issue that fuels the search.

Sometimes, though, the unresolved search for meaning leads to considerable stress and leads us to ask questions that are even more difficult to answer. Because they are difficult to answer, we often “make up” our own meanings that come more from our wounded self than from Truth.

A question that often comes up when I speak to clients is: “Is it possible that I’m just not supposed to have children? Maybe God doesn’t want me to have children?” Sometimes clients have already decided they are being punished by God. Or simply, children aren’t part of their life purpose.

If this is something you have been thinking about, here’s my suggestion.

When you are dealing with an issue as charged as infertility or loss, it is easy for the hurt part of your mind to give you an answer that isn’t true.

To get a true answer, schedule a time when you can go somewhere very quiet and a place that you feel most connected with your higher power. Spend several minutes just breathing. Allow yourself to come into this present moment. Then, in whatever way feels most comfortable and authentic, connect with your higher power.

When you feel the connection, ask the question: are children part of my life path?

Notice the impulses and intuition that you receive.

Connecting and asking the question from a quiet and centered space is the only way to get a clear answer. This allows you to get an answer that is not from your conscious mind or the part of you that has been hurt over and over.

No matter what your question, this process will help you receive answers; and you will stay out of the negative downward stress spiral that comes when the hurt part of you is trying desperately to answer the question.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

“Time is not a line, but a series of now-points” — Taisen Deshimaru

Pull yourself into this now-point. Experience this now-point.

If you are having a difficult day or a sense of worry, pulling yourself into this moment can feel a little scary. Most of us find a way to “numb-out” or bury a moment that is filled with a “negative” emotion.

This simply hides the emotion to act on the body at a later time. You are actually passing the emotion on to your future.

When you stay present in the moment, stay present to the feeling, you handle the emotion and then transform it. Feel the feeling, honor it, acknowledge it, and then actively make a new choice.

Staying in the present moment means you are giving a gift to your body and ultimately, your fertility.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Question:

clock_south_hampton2How do you maintain a positive attitude while in the waiting period after embryo transfer (for IVF cycle) and preparing yourself emotionally for a possible failure? After several failed cycles, it is too painful to not try to prepare oneself for a negative outcome. It’s too painful to believe with all your heart that you are pregnant and then receive a call that you are not. I do use your IVF Meditation CD and love it, but it gets harder the last few days to get into that zone of peace your meditation CD usually brings.

Answer:

Here’s the question I ask my individual clients who have been through the ringer over and over again:

Where can you put your best focus?

Chances are, if you are someone who has been through believing and then getting negative results, focusing on “I’m pregnant” is going to be really hard.

How about a focus of:

I’ve done the best I know how to do.
I’m allowing my body to do the best it/she can do in this moment.
I do what I can do and leave the rest to Spirit/God/Universe.
No matter what happens, I’ll find a way to be a Mother.
I’m open to receiving the best outcome for this cycle.

See if there’s one of these that speaks to you — or if it inspires a thought of your own.

Your body knows your desire is to get pregnant and have a healthy baby at the end of nine months. Your job — from a Mind~Body perspective — is to find a way to have thoughts that match this desire.

Focusing on “I’m Pregnant” when you’ve had a lot of experience to prove it isn’t a certainty you are, now puts your thoughts in direct conflict with your desire. You find yourself resisting the thoughts you are thinking and not being able to get into the flow that was easier to find during the first part of your cycle.

You want to pick a thought that leaves you feeling open and connected with your body — not fighting it.

No matter where you are in your cycle right now, begin to think about what your best focus can be.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Affirmations, used correctly, are powerful tools that allow you to stay aligned with the goal you have: a healthy pregnancy and baby. Affirmations keep your mind~body~spirit system open to your goals.

Let me give you an example of a fertility affirmation. Granted, this is an “extreme” example, but it will be easier to illustrate my point:

“I’m pregnant with a healthy, happy baby”

How does this feel? Does your mind and body react joyfully? Does your mind and body accept it easily? Probably not if you’ve been dealing with infertility or loss.

What are the thoughts and feelings that come up when you say this statement?

“Maybe I am, maybe I’m not.”“I can’t say that or I’ll get my hopes up.”“It feels too scary to say that if it isn’t really true.”“I used to think things like this, it didn’t work—it’s just wishful thinking.”

If you continue to use this affirmation—or even if you stop and do nothing with the thoughts that came up—you’ve put yourself in a worse place than if you hadn’t done the affirmation to begin with. You’ve now raised the stress response in your body, which is not helpful to your reproductive system.

However, if you take these thoughts to the next level, they are pure gold in terms of helping your body AND your fertility.

These thoughts didn’t just arise because of the affirmations. They came up in response to the beliefs you carry in your mind~body~spirit system. These beliefs create the emotions that keep the stress response running behind the scenes. The affirmations simply brought them to the surface.

These beliefs could be:

  • I have no impact on my body’s fertility.
  • My body must be broken; there must be something wrong with me.
  • It’s dangerous to hope.
  • I’m not strong enough to keep getting my hopes dashed.

Identifying and shifting the beliefs helps your mind~body~spirit system to be more in alignment with your goal: a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Please don’t get me wrong; affirmations are a phenomenal way to put your mind~body~spirit in tune with your goals. Just be cognizant of the thoughts that come up as you do the affirmations. When you pay attention to them, you’ll enhance the power of affirmations 10-fold.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.