The third step in dealing with disappointment is: Forgive yourself

I know this sounds very “self-help-y,” and yet, it’s an extremely powerful step.

When you stay in the mental place of judging yourself for your role in the disappointment, you simply continue to keep the disappointment front and center. This keeps the disappointment in the present moment and very real. It also tends to make the decisions about the meaning of the disappointment much harder to release (Step 2).

Forgiveness is a tricky act. To some, forgiveness means you have to let go and believe everything is okay.

That’s not actually forgiveness.

Forgiveness is more about releasing all the energy you have tied up and invested in the situation. It’s about letting go of the never ending merry-go-round of, “this was wrong / this was right / I am right / you are wrong, etc.” and instead saying, “I’m done assessing blame. It happened. I’m ready to move forward.”

When you stay tied up in blaming yourself, you are constantly signaling your body that you are at war with yourself. Your body’s fight-or-flight response is continuously being triggered, which severely impacts your entire reproductive system.

Play with this step and see how it works for you.

Each step of the process to release disappointment takes effort and can be challenging. Because of that, I’m going to give you EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statement proactively or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment.

Even though I have to judge myself or I’ll keep making mistakes, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I should have been able to do something differently to create a different response, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping in Affirmations

Won’t it be nice when I can forgive myself
I love knowing that I can choose to forgive myself
I choose to forgive myself

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit