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If the leaves of your favorite plant are droopy, do you pour water on them? Or, do you pour water over the roots?

Your body is built to be fertile, to create new life.

When your body isn’t conceiving, or not creating healthy eggs, or not building a healthy lining, pushing your body to create more eggs or force a great lining can be a bit like trying to nourish droopy leaves by drowning them with water.

Sometimes it is enough — and that’s great.

But if it isn’t working for you, what’s the next step? What’s the root of the reason your body isn’t conceiving?

Working at the level of your Mind and Spirt will give you insight into what is happening at the root levels. I want to offer you a few questions you can start to ask yourself to begin to uncover the roots of your fertility issues, so you can give your body the nourishment it needs to return to full fertility.

However, before I do that, I want to remind you that asking these questions is NOT about blaming you for your situation. ALL illness has roots in the Mind and the Spirit. And, it is my belief (which you are free to take on or discard as you see fit) that our Souls lead us to the perfect circumstances at the perfect time to allow us to open to a new understanding of ourselves and relationship with the deepest parts of ourselves.

Not only will asking these kinds of questions lead you to a re-nourishment of your fertility, but they will also give you a new, fuller, more abundant way of living life.

Start with these questions:

  1. How does dealing with infertility make you feel? When have you felt these emotions before?
  2. Why do you want a child? Why do you not want a child?
  3. On a scale of 0-10, how easy is it for you to receive?
  4. Have you experienced any sexual trauma?
  5. How safe is it to have a child in this world?
  6. How safe are you in the world?
  7. Who do you need to be in order to trust in, believe in, or love your Self?
  8. What role does the Divine play in the unfolding of your day-to-day life?

What are the questions that make your stomach clench? What are the questions that highlight areas of pain, sadness, or need to control?

These are the tips of your roots showing.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

This is the sixth of my email series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th. (If you would like to hear all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

The first five emails have shared how your intertwined your mind, body, and spirit are and how that can work against your fertility.

The good news is, you can use the way your body works to work FOR your fertility instead of AGAINST it.

Here are 5 steps to take:

Relax

This is NOT about simply, “oh honey, relax and you’ll get pregnant.” This is about relaxing your body at the cellular level.  Utilize the Relaxation Response to bring your cells out of protection mode and into growth mode on a regular basis.

Activate the Relaxation Response through guided meditation, visualization, yoga, simple breathing exercises, mindful walks, and more.

Release

Identify and heal the thoughts, behaviors and emotions that are sending danger messages to your body about conceiving.

These are patterns of thought and belief that are so ingrained that you don’t notice them.

A few questions to start you off:

On a scale of 1-10, how much do I trust my body?
What impact will a baby make on my relationships? My career?
In general, is the world a safe place, or a dangerous place?
How much do I trust my body?
Is sexuality safe?
What do I have to do to earn what I want?

Reveal

What do you really want?  I know you want a baby…but why? This step will help you identify more hidden thoughts and beliefs that can block conceiving.

Will a baby give you unconditional love? Will a baby prove that you are good enough? Will a baby help become the Mother you wish you had had?

I know, tricky questions that are uncomfortable. And while you don’t have to have perfect thoughts to conceive, finding and healing the particular belief that is creating the most impact on your mind/body/system will open your creative potential.

Reconnect

Start a daily habit of thoughts that will allow you to create your family.  Lay down new rules in your subconscious that allow you to be completely open to conceiving, to be filled with joy, to be confident in yourself, to be confident in your body.

Renew

What’s your daily practice?  What’s your routine? Commit to put it these steps into a daily practice.

As you practice these steps, your mind/body/spirit will come into alignment and amplify your innate fertility.

If you would like some one on one help, watch your email tomorrow as the Unlock Your Fertility program opens!

This is the fifth of my email series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th.  (If you would like to hear all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Emotions carry vibrations.

Test this out yourself: Imagine feeling sad. Imagine feeling angry. Imagine someone handing you $50,000, no strings attached. Feel the joy and excitement this brings.

Notice how different those all feel.  Notice that sadness feels heavy and low.  Joy feels light and high.

Each emotion creates a different feeling, a different vibration in your body.

Also notice how you can’t have a low vibration AND a high vibration happening at the same time.

So, if you have an area of your life – like dealing with infertility – that is causing many low vibrations, you will find it harder and harder to experience high vibration emotions in other areas of your life.

Not only does this impact your general sense of well-being, but it impacts your fertility.

When you feel the lower vibration emotions, it gets harder and harder to pull yourself out because physiologically you can’t feel high and low vibrations at the same time.

Your body retains memories of previous emotions.  With more and more negative emotions, you can end up feeling worse and worse.  This makes it even harder to move into higher vibration emotions

The more time you spend in a pattern of thought, the more rules you lay down in your subconscious.  This is in addition to the original beliefs that created the physical blocks to conception.

All of these lower emotions firmly entrench your cells in protection mode.

You can also end up getting into a negative cycle of thought, perhaps even build I more beliefs like: I’ll never get pregnant, or, I’m broken, or, I’m really not good enough.

And, all of this adds up to difficulty for your reproductive system.

A mind/body/spirit approach will give you the tools you need to release the lower vibration emotions so that your cells can stay in growth mode and you can release beliefs that aren’t serving your fertility.

On Monday, Sept 11th, learn how to start using a mind/body/spirit approach to improve your fertility.

This is the third of my series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th. (If you would like to all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Your Subconscious Mind and Your Fertility

Your subconscious mind is the “automatic pilot” part of your brain.  This part of your mind perceives what is around you and translates your environment into manageable “chunks” and then directs how your body responds to them.

In a single second, your subconscious mind will process 20 million pieces of data.  In that same second, your conscious mind processes only about 40 pieces of data. The subconscious mind needs to know what’s important to send on to your conscious mind.

How does it do this? It creates rules.  If the data matches the rule, then it passes it on.  Ever notice how the day you are feeling the worst about not having your baby yet, that’s the day you see a million pregnant women?  You were focused on pregnancy – so that’s what information got passed on to you.

Taking it a step farther, your subconscious’ job is to keep you safe and alive.  If a rule isn’t being met within your body, it creates a danger message within your body which activates many systems, including your stress system, your fight or flight response.

Where do rules and beliefs come from?

Your subconscious is wide open up until about age 7.  We learn the vast majority of our rules or beliefs before the age of 7.  90% of adult behavior comes from beliefs learned before the age of 7.

This is great, until we take on beliefs of others that don’t serve us well, such as:

Pregnancy and birth are to be feared (because of all the stories from your mom or aunt or neighbor.)
You’re supposed to be the responsible one
You’re not good enough to really have what you want
Being responsible means NOT having a baby
Babies are tough on relationships
Life is hard
Life is about struggle
AND more…

But how does a belief impact your fertility?

Let’s say that the belief you learned when you were young was: “I have to be perfect to be loved.”

You work hard. But every time something isn’t “perfect”, your brain recognizes that the rule isn’t being met and sends out warning signals to your body.

Because “perfect” doesn’t exist, your body is receiving warning messages all the time.  Your fight or flight response is always triggered.  Long term stress negatively impacts your reproductive system.

Your beliefs can support or derail your fertility.

A mind/body/spirit approach to fertility helps to uncover AND heal underlying beliefs that are negatively impacting your fertility.

More information tomorrow!

Why is “relaxing” important for fertility?

The word “relax” conjures up images of lying on a beach, a drink (perhaps with an umbrella) in one hand, a summer beach read in the other, and not a care in the world.

When someone who has not experienced infertility tells someone who is currently having challenges to “just relax” the implication is: you’re overthinking this, you’re creating your own problem, if you just stopped worrying and fretting, then you’d get what you want (and oh, by the way, it’s easy to do all of this).

When this comes from the outside, it is one of the rudest and perhaps meanest comments because it completely dismisses all the emotions of a heart-wrenching experience. It’s like a slap in the face.

However, when you take a Mind~Body~Spirit approach to your fertility, you begin to learn the deep benefits of the Relaxation Response. The Relaxation Response is a term that describes a state of rest and well-being within your body.

When you purposefully begin to engage the Relaxation Response, this is what happens with your body and your fertility:

  • Your cells become protected from stress messages and do not respond by engaging the fight or flight response. Long-term exposure to the fight or flight response damages your fertility.
  • Your cells are able to work with their healthy, normal processes, which supports your fertility.
  • You reduce depression and anxiety, both of which have been shown to decrease fertility.
  • You are not as affected by the ups and downs of dealing with fertility challenges.
  • You have an easier time connecting with your inner wisdom and understanding of what subconscious patterns might be impacting your fertility.
  • You have an easier time making decisions, which will support you long term.

The Relaxation Response provides deep healing to your physical body, which opens you up to engaging the Being Fertile state of being.

While the words “Relaxation Response” can sound very similar to “just relax,” nothing could be further from the truth. You are choosing to create a state of being that will actively align you with and pull you toward your desired family.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

How do I become fertile even when things in life are not perfect and there is a lot of personal stress?

Underlying this question is the understanding that how you feel matters to your fertility (and if this is a new concept for you, you can listen to the Mind~Body~Spirit Keys to Unlocking Your Fertility for an in-depth explanation).

And yet, how do you shift how you are feeling when real life is happening to you every moment of every day?

Let me give you the basic formula:

  1. Add in a period of relaxation on a daily basis.

    When you induce the relaxation response on a daily basis, you literally change how your body responds to stress. It is as if you are putting a layer of Saran Wrap over the cells that are ‘listening’ for the stress.

    You can induce the relaxation response by exercising (as long as you aren’t watching the news, reading a book, answering e-mail, etc., at the same time), getting out in nature, getting lost in beautiful music, deep breathing, meditation, or listening to guided meditations/imagery.

    Twenty minutes daily is best, but start with 5 minutes. Or 3. Something short every day is better than 20 minutes once a week.

  2. Is what you know to be true, really true?

    This is not meant to be an irreverent statement. Nor is it one to suggest that what you are feeling isn’t true.

    However, we humans tend to be our own worst enemies when it comes to our thoughts. Our brains don’t know the difference between thinking about something that is happening in real time or something we are simply thinking about.

    When you are feeling personal stress, take a moment to pause, take a deep breath and ask yourself: Do I know this to be true?

    Is it really true that if I don’t get pregnant this month that I won’t have a baby? Is it really true that if “x” situation happens then “y” is a given?

    This is where your underlying beliefs and thought patterns begin to get exposed. Challenge them. Use EFT to help diminish them. Get some outside help to get you to see where your beliefs are tripping you up.

  3. Create a basic mantra.

    Even if you do step two and discover your beliefs are in fact ‘making’ you believe something is more stressful than it is, what do you do then? It is challenging to begin to think in a new way.

    The easiest way I have found to start a new belief pattern and thus a new way of thinking, is to create a statement, a mantra of sorts, that you can keep coming back to in the moment. The more you use your mantra, the easier it will be to shift your thoughts in the moment.

    For example:

    No matter what happens, I am going to be okay
    I don’t know how or when, but I am going to be a Mother
    The resources I need are showing up when I need them
    I allow this to unfold
    The Divine has my back in all ways

Remember, the goal is to begin to shift how you feel. Every moment that you are able to make that shift matters to your body. Every moment that you make the shift in how you feel makes the next moment easier to feel better.

Most importantly: You do not have to be perfect to be fertile.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

plant-nourish-align-miracle

Let me start by saying: You do not have to visualize in order to become pregnant. You only want to include tools that get you:

  1. To a better feeling place (because that’s when your body has the optimal environment to support reproduction).
  2. To move to a place of belief that you will receive what you want.

Visualization is an incredibly powerful tool to do both. However, when you have been trying to get pregnant for a long time, the built up history and emotions can make it hard to achieve either of these.

In reality, using visualization can lead you to end up feeling sadder than before. So you stop using the tool, because after all, you aren’t achieving either #1 or #2, why continue?

When you feel sad, the typical reaction is to stop thinking about whatever you are thinking about and of course, why wouldn’t you? However, if you can stay with the emotion for just a bit, you’ll be able to receive some information that will help you uncover underlying patterns that are creating the sadness and might also be impacting your fertility.

When you are feeling sad, you could be bumping up into one of the following thought patterns:

  1. You are focusing hard on the HOW and WHEN your pregnancy will happen. (“I can’t do this much longer; I only have resources for one IVF, it HAS to happen now; I’m running out of time; my chances are only going down each month.”)
  2. Part of you doesn’t really believe you can have what you want.
  3. You are time traveling into the past or the future.
  4. You are creating the reasons why you aren’t pregnant yet (don’t deserve, not enough, etc.) that the wise, connected part of you won’t believe and so you end up separating from your inner wisdom, which creates more sadness.
  5. Your personal thought pattern.

The key is to be curious about what thoughts are creating your sadness.

Once you know the thought pattern, now you can start shifting the pattern. One tool I love for this is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). You can read more about it here.

Most of us try to deal with sadness by pushing it away or avoiding the external source. If you can stay curious, the powerful emotion of sadness will share a lot with you, which ultimately can shift the underlying beliefs that may even be affecting your fertility.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Hand holding tree saplingDo you ever pick a theme for your year? A focus to help you draw what you want into being?

When you’ve been trying to draw a baby into being for some time, simply picking “Baby” as your theme for the year may seem simplistic as well as somewhat unsafe. Unsafe because it’s been a desire for a while and your heart can’t take any more disappointment.

Yet, you don’t want to not focus on drawing a baby in, because you still have that strong desire for a child. How can you not do all you can to have your baby?

Only a small amount of conflict, right?

Here’s my suggestion. What if instead of focusing on “baby,” or doing to create your baby, you focused on Fertile Be-ing. Meaning, focusing on creating the most fertile internal environment, the most fertile you possible.

What does this look like?

  • Knowing why you do (and don’t) want a baby.
  • Regularly creating deep peace in every cell of your body.
  • Identifying the habits of thought and patterns of emotions that take you out of the place of deep peace.
  • Inviting the Divine to help you co-create your child.
  • Knowing when to take action and when to stay still and receive.
  • Listening deeply to your body, knowing what it needs to support a healthy pregnancy and baby.
  • And more.

Clearly, this focus takes some time. And perhaps that creates a little more conflict within you, “but, I need a baby now. I’m running out of time.”

To address that conflict, if you are willing, I invite you to take a moment and close your eyes. Take several deep breaths. Ask your body to show you what a difference even taking two to three months to focus on being a Fertile Be-ing would be. How would life change? How would your body change? How would your emotions change? How would you be supported?

I’ve witnessed the miracles in my client’s lives as they make this switch. Therefore, my commitment to the Anji community for 2014 is continually to bring resources to you that help you step more fully into being a Fertile Be-ing.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Last week I had an e-mail from a client who had stumbled across an article online in which several reproductive endocrinologists were detailing the dwindling chances of conceiving in your 30’s and 40’s.

Then, just today, I was doing some research for an upcoming Abundant Fertility Healing and Support call, and came across an article detailing how infertility was reaching women even in their 20’s. It described how women in their 20’s are seeking treatment for infertility after only five months of trying on their own because they know their fertility is only going to get worse.

This just makes me want to scream. This constant mantra of “age, age, age, age, age” only serves to create fear and worry.

From a big picture vision, someone who is 27 has a different fertility rate than someone who is 47. However, the problem is with this constant screaming about age, it’s created a huge sense of daily pressure. This daily fear and pressure has a much more significant affect on your reproduction today than the turning of a new month on the calendar. Your fertility isn’t leaking away on a daily basis.

You literally can’t do anything about your biologic age. However, the main problem doctors relate to age is egg quality.

You can do something about egg quality. Increasing the blood flow to your uterus and your ovaries will positively impact your overall egg quality. Introducing regular mind~body work, including the relaxation response will do both. Releasing your underlying fears and negative beliefs will reduce the stress response in your body, positively impacting your reproductive system.

You are going to continue to hear about age. Here are three keys to shifting your thoughts/beliefs to balance the messages you hear about age:

  • Step more into trust of your body and of the power of the mind~body connection.
  • Remember, when doctors are speaking about age, they are speaking in general terms, not specific to you.
  • Focus more on what you want than the obstacles in obtaining it.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.