Mind~Body~Spirit


A simple Google search of the term “fertility help” yields 60,300,000 entries.

Can they all be helpful to you? Can they really give you the pregnancy success they promise?

When you have tried dozens out of the 60 million options without luck, it’s reasonable to become a bit jaded and cautious. How do you utilize products/services that will help you and release the rest?

Here are three steps to take, which will help you improve your own success.

  1. Spend time developing your own internal connection.You are your own unique constellation of cells. What works for your body may not work for someone else’s body and visa-versa. This is both empowering and completely overwhelming. How do you make decisions? Will somebody else’s success story carry over to you if you follow the same steps?

    Spend time getting quiet and learning to listen to your body’s yes/no response. While you could call this intuition, I believe it goes even deeper.

    You have your own individual connection with the Divine. When you learn to tune into, hear, and follow what your guidance is telling you, now you are able to discern whether a particular method, nutritional supplement, or physical activity will support your fertility.

    Read the research, read what others have said, and then put that information aside and tune into your guidance.

  2. Go all in.Once you’ve decided, go all in. Put all your focus on following the method. Believe in its success.

    If you spend time second guessing yourself, wondering if you have made the right choice, wondering how you’d be doing with a different choice or any other monkey mind chatter, you diminish your body’s ability to fully utilize the choice you have made.

    Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t get to change your mind, or a particular program/supplement, etc., will always be the right choice to follow. I’m not suggesting you but blind faith into a single action step or a single person.

    There is a difference between second guessing yourself and listening to your guidance. If you have spent time doing step #1, you will be able to discern whether you are simply feeling a little anxiety because you really want your baby and when you are getting an intuitive hit that it is time to transition to another method.

  3. Allow it to be a series of successes leading to your baby.Instant success (especially after all your years of trying) is highly desirable, right?

    At the same time, when you NEED THIS program/supplement/doctor/approach to work RIGHT NOW, you place incredible stress on your body at both the cellular and energetic levels. I understand it is easy to feel this month needs to be the month, especially if you are feeling time and/or budget issues.

    But, how would your decision making process improve if you listened to what your mind~body~spirit needs in this particular moment? Perhaps your emotions need support now, which will set you up to be ready for the body-based treatment you do in three months?

    Most often, success comes from a series of action steps. And again, success is augmented when you’ve spent some time cultivating your inner connection, so you can feel confident you are on your path to a baby.

No one method works for everyone. Trust yourself. Trust you are listening to your mind~body~spirit connection and know you are on your way to success.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” — Victor Frankel

Our human nature drives to try to “known” solutions before doing something else. It’s not that we only want an easy solution; it’s more about: how can you try something you don’t know about?

Yet, when a big problem persists, it’s time to find out what you didn’t know you didn’t know.

Mind~Body~Spirit solutions for fertility issues typically fall into the “didn’t know you didn’t know” category. Taking on a M~B~S view of fertility requires moving from believing doctors and medical science have ALL the answers to uncovering your own role in your health.

You have probably made steps to taking care of your own health in the areas of diet and exercise before. However, what about listening to the deeper messages from your body?

Here’s something to think about: In addition to being painful, excruciatingly frustrating, depressing, sad, and (add your current emotion here), infertility is also a message to you from your body.

A message energy is blocked somewhere in your body. A message your body is trying to get your attention in the only way it knows how. A message that when you really hear it; will tell you what to do to heal.

Christiane Northrup, M.D. in “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” describes this eloquently:

“Every thought we think has a biochemical equivalent. Every emotion we feel has a biochemical equivalent. One of my colleagues says, ‘The mind is the space between the cells.’ So when the part of your mind that is your uterus talks to you, through pain or excessive bleeding, are you prepared to listen to it?”

This can be quite a challenge to get your mind wrapped around. We typically aren’t taught to listen to our bodies. We’re taught to cover up symptoms with Tylenol or Tums. We’re taught to push through our body’s pain. Not with malicious intent — but from a disconnected understanding of how the body works.

I invite you to begin to step up to this new challenge to change yourself. Begin to start thinking of all of the physical symptoms in your body — painful periods, short luteal phases, muscle pain, headaches, and digestive issues — as messages from your body.

Take time to quiet your mind, take a couple of deep breaths, and then drop your awareness down into your body and ask, “What do you want me to know?”

You’ll be amazed at what you hear once you start listening.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Just last week I had a conversation with a community member who was anxious because she wasn’t able to keep positive thoughts about the outcome of her cycle all the time. Her fear was if she wasn’t able to keep those thoughts going, her cycle would end up failing.

In other words, thinking positive was the step that would *make* a pregnancy happen.

Depending on who you are, you might substitute any other action step: the right doctor, the right Chinese Medicine practitioner, the right diet, the right amount of sleep, the right amount of meditation, etc. Get the wrong formula and you won’t *make* the pregnancy happen.

It is not your job to make a pregnancy happen.

It is your job to receive a pregnancy.

Your job is to be in alignment with the state of being that allows pregnancy. When you use meditation, relaxation, yoga, nature hikes, acupuncture, herbs, nutrition, and yes, even assisted reproduction, you are putting your body into the being state to receive a pregnancy.

So, in any given moment, you get to ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking/feeling in alignment with receiving a pregnancy?”

You will know the answer is ‘yes’ if how you are thinking/feeling matches with how you would think and feel when the baby is present. If you will feel joyful when a baby is present, then feeling joyful is your job. When you are feeling joyful, then you are in receiving mode. If you’re not sure, then simply go with feeling “good.”

What’s really powerful about being in the receiving mode is that the steps to take to receive your baby unfold with ease and clarity.

This is so different than so many of the messages we’ve gotten about how to “go after” what we want: Work hard. No pain, no gain. Fight for what you want. Make it happen. Fertility simply doesn’t respond well to these kinds of concepts.

Take a moment and notice the difference between going to acupuncture because that is THE step that will MAKE a baby happen for you… and going to acupuncture because it helps you feel good in body~mind~spirit, and feeling good puts you in alignment with a baby.

The difference may feel subtle to you; however, I assure you the difference is powerful. Take a breath and release the heavy responsibility of *making* a pregnancy happen and instead, allow yourself to shift into receiving mode. Your baby is there.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

I have spoken with a number of clients this past week who have told me they feel like they are at their breaking point. Life, including fertility struggles, has pushed them to their edges and part of them is terrified they may shatter into too many pieces to ever be whole again.

When you are in this emotional space, the mind~body~spirit tenet “how you feel matters to your fertility” can feel like a slap in the face and simply one more reason to completely fall apart.

However, this emotional space can actually be the greatest gift to your fertility.

Why do I say this? When you are in this space, it is tempting to call yourself “broken.” I would argue you are “cracked open.” In this space, the thoughts and beliefs which support your most negative thought habits and patterns are right there, right at the surface.

These negative thought patterns and habits are typically buried deep within your psyche, creating internal stress and conflict and triggering the type of fight-or-flight response, which is so detrimental to your body. The reason it is so detrimental is because it is constantly running in the background — kind of like how having the dome light on inside your car overnight drains your car battery.

When you find yourself “cracked open,” here’s what you can do to find these beliefs.

Spend some time journaling. Write down exactly what you are feeling. Let yourself be your most whiney, honest, angry self. Let those words simply fly out onto the paper. Then, read back over what you’ve written. What are the themes?

Usually the themes boil down to: I’m not enough, I don’t deserve what I want, life isn’t fair, I’m not safe, etc.

Once you know your theme, now you can begin to build new thought patterns and habits to support the opposite. As the new patterns become habit, you support your body and your fertility from the inside out.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Whether I’m speaking to a client or another professional who works with fertility, I’m always talking about the Mind~Body principle: How you feel matters to your fertility.

But what does this really mean? Does it mean you have to be positive about your fertility all the time? Well, yes and no.

Let me explain.

Your cells are constantly listening to the emotions within you in order to know how to respond. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between something you are experiencing in real time or simply thinking about it. Your emotions and thoughts — whether related to fertility or other areas of your life — impact your reproductive system.

My most pressing desire in my work with my clients is to start with simply feeling good in the moment; feeling peace, calm, even joy if we can get there. If we can get there by talking specifically about fertility, great, but if it means simply feeling good in general, that’s just as good.

Let me give you an example. I’d like to share an e-mail from a woman who participated in last week’s Mind, Body, Sprit Tools to Release Fear and Worry teleclass because I believe it reflects this exact point.

Jennifer,

I am in the process of preparing for a frozen embryo transfer. I have had many ups and downs in this fertility journey. Obviously I don’t know yet if the “dealing with fear and worry” workshop will “result as such” in a pregnancy but I can say I feel much better, much calmer, and generally okay. This in and of itself is a positive result. This process has been so fraught with unsettling emotions, the ability to feel good while going through a procedure is a new and positive development.

Thanks for a thoughtful workshop,

K.

PS: I used the “support from mother earth, love from spirit above” tool a few times yesterday having nothing to do with fertility.

Two aspects of this e-mail stood out to me. First, she celebrated feeling better — without knowing if it was going to have a specific effect on getting pregnant. While I know the ultimate desire is to be pregnant, you must give your body time to shift. Feeling good is the evidence you have that you are putting your body in its best condition to conceive.

Second, she used the tools we spoke about for emotions having nothing to do with fertility. A Mind~Body approach to fertility is a holistic approach. Your body is listening to all of your emotions, all of the time, not just the ones about fertility.

At the energetic level, creating what you want is about emotion. Your emotion is a manifestation and it is your signal that what you want is on its way.

At the physical level, feeling better is supportive of your body in general and your fertility specifically.

Of course, with all the ups and downs of infertility (not to mention the rest of life), feeling good requires a PhD in emotional shifting. Use whatever you can to shift how you are feeling in the moment.

Meditation, EFT, visualization, exercise, getting outside, reading a great book, listening to beautiful music — these are but a few of the tools you can use to create a shift.

Back to the original question: do you have to feel positive about your fertility all the time? Here’s where I suggest you start: put fertility to the side and simply concentrate on asking yourself the question: How do I feel right now? What can I be/do in this moment to feel even just a little bit better?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Choose to Make Peace

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

Suspended Animation: (noun) The temporary cessation of most vital functions without death, as in a dormant seed or a hibernating animal.

As you are waiting for your baby, does it feel like you are in a constant state of suspended animation? “How can I plan anything? A vacation, a job change, a move, the next stage of my life?”

When I’ve been in this state of suspended animation, I describe it as feeling as if I am frozen in the middle of a clear water lake, arms and legs outstretched, wanting to run and scream, and yet nothing moves. I can see everything that I want around me, and yet I can’t get there. Endless winter.

If you find yourself in this suspended animation because of fertility, often the first response is to fight against the suspension. To push into action. Research. Look for a new doctor, nutritionist, energy healer, etc. Rail against God. Push even harder. Strive even more. Feed the emotions that scream, “This ISN’T FAIR!”

Of course you do. Because it’s a helpless state.

And yet, even as you are pushing against, your whole system is letting you know that this isn’t what it wants.

So instead, when you are in this state, here’s what I want you to remember: Even when winter has its icy grip all around you, important work is being done inside. Without winter, without the resting phase, organisms burn out.

Spring always returns.

How do you make it through a suspended animation phase to that metaphorical spring? By choosing practices that match the phase: BEING practices. Practices that fuel your body.

Time in nature. Relaxation practice. Meditation. Journaling. Long walks. Being in the present moment. Appreciating your body. Playing. Being creative. Honoring and acknowledging that part within you that craves action and movement. Letting that part know that time is coming. Then coming back to a BEING practice.

If you take this approach instead of pushing against the stagnation, you’ll become aware of the signs telling you the suspended animation state is ending, you’ll become aware of the inspired actions that are just right for you in this moment. You’ll know when it’s time to take the next step.

Those signs, like the first hints of green shoots working their way out of the ground, are easy to miss if you are perpetually looking 10 steps ahead and needing action and movement.

Take the time to be — even when it feels helpless and painful — and know that your spring, your baby, is on its way.

Green Shoots

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

When you want something as powerfully as you want your family, your baby, you want an answer that is equally as powerful.

The tip I’m sharing with you today is powerful. This technique will create a ripple of healing throughout your body and reproductive system. But it’s going to seem too simple to have powerful effects. Before you read any further, make a commitment to do this technique for the next week.

The tip?

Several times throughout your day (I highly recommend setting your phone alarms), stop. Whatever you are doing, pause. Take 10 deep breaths.

Each time you do this, it is as if you are hitting the “reset” switch on your body. Every cell of your body completely releases and relaxes. When you do it consistently, your mind will clear, leaving you more open to make decisions you feel good about. You will create a deep sense of peace, which will allow you to engage the Spirit portion of the Mind~Body~Spirit continuum.

Using this technique naturally soothes your reproductive system and gives any ART you are doing a fertile ground from which to work.

I’d love to hear your results.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

When you are feeling sad or anxious, or any other negative emotion because of what’s happening with your fertility, those feelings are created from two different sources.

First, the very obvious: it’s painful to constantly seek something that keeps not happening. It’s heart wrenching to not have your baby yet.

Second, the not as obvious: what you believe about yourself because you don’t yet have a baby.

While dealing with the first is important, healing those emotions tends to be short lasting unless you also heal the second. Kind of like putting a Band-Aid over a broken bone; the support will help it feel better for a while, but anytime something moves the Band-Aid, the pain will come right back.

Let me give you an example.

In my work with clients this week, the same theme has come up in many conversations:

“I’m afraid if I don’t ever have a baby I’m going to end up being a bitter old woman.”

When this fear is running in the back of your mind, anytime something negative happens in relationship to building your family, not only do you feel emotion because of the present situation, you also feel the pain of the fear that you are going to be a bitter old woman. All emotions in the present become magnified.

Using a Mind~Body approach, you can uncover these underlying thoughts and beliefs, which fuel emotions of your present time experiences. As you heal the underlying thoughts and beliefs, you have more peace in your body, less underlying conflict, which touches off the fight or flight response, and gives you more resources to handle the daily ups and downs of building your family.

If you are willing, I invite you to take a couple of minutes and either write this question in a journal or let it sit lightly in your consciousness and see what arises:

What do I believe about myself because of the challenge I’ve had creating my family?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

In order for healthy conception to occur, your mind~body~spirit system must be open, communicating, and supportive of your intellectual desire to conceive. Each aspect of the system can place ‘stop signs’ to conception. Now, that’s anthropomorphizing in a big way… and yet, our mind~body~spirit system is a very alive system that has many moving parts, all working together to bring your heart’s/soul’s desire to physical existence.

What gets in the way of this happening? Why WOULDN’T your system work towards creating your heart’s desire?

The simple answer to this question is: safety.

Your mind~body~spirit’s main job is to keep you safe and alive. It’s in easy to think of some forms of safety: keeping you from stepping out in front of a bus, or deciding not to slip into bath water that makes your foot reflexes recoil from water so hot you would burn your skin. But what if safety came from your belief that you can’t share your true thoughts? Or that it was more important that someone else be happy than you? Or if something comes easily to you, you don’t deserve it?

Where do these beliefs come from?

Life experience. And not necessarily even your OWN life experience.

Most of our beliefs are in place by the age of seven. Some people even say three. So as an adult, you’re making decisions and beliefs from a child’s point of view.

What’s more: the part of brain responsible for recording emotions begins developing from the second day of conception. Can you have emotions this early? Your Mother did. From very, very early on in your Mother’s pregnancy with you, you were picking up on her emotional experiences and her vibrations.

If there was some stress and then some relief and then some stress and some relief then you learned that when stress happens, peace isn’t far behind. But, if there was a lot of fear and worry and no relief — your very basic systems learned the world isn’t a place to be trusted.

By the age of three you already developed the “lens” you look at life through.

Add to that the other beliefs you may have learned as you are growing up: keep quiet. Children are a hassle. You can’t have what you want. These beliefs weren’t yours to start with; they simply came with your experience.

You might begin to think that you are doomed. Or I’m telling you to place blame squarely on someone else’s shoulders. Not at all.

The idea is to begin to take a look at your own beliefs about the world. Are they really true? What do you really want to believe? How could NOT getting pregnant seem like a safer solution to your body than GETTING pregnant?

That last question’s a doozy. At least it can be when you haven’t thought about conceiving from a mind~body~spirit perspective. The first step is to find the beliefs. The next step is to begin to build new beliefs and remove those stop signs your body thinks are keeping you safe.

You hold the power to change the “lens” through which you see the world. The “lens” that creates the beliefs that can create the stop signs to conception. How wonderful will it be to clean house of the beliefs that are creating things in your life that weren’t even yours to begin with!

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

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