Archive for May, 2011

The bonus fifth step in dealing with disappointment is stepping into a neutral emotional place. Different types of disappointment will have varying degrees of emotional intensity. Do not feel like you have to move from sadness and disappointment directly into positivity or hope. Yes, those emotions feel better and are a goal, but the first step is neutral.

If you were feeling really angry or sad, and disappointed, wouldn’t neutral feel better? Then, from neutral, you can move upwards towards hope.

Take the pressure off; don’t require yourself to go all the way to hope and belief from a place of disappointment. So many of my clients are so hard on themselves; they worry if they aren’t in a place of hope and belief that their stress will hamper their efforts of conceiving.

Each forward step you can make, the easier it is on your body. However, take just a moment and feel the relief that would come to your body and all her organs if you just allowed yourself to come to the place of neutral.

Each step of the process to release disappointment takes effort and can be challenging. Because of that, I’m going to give you EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statements proactively, or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment.

Even though I want to feel better, I simply can’t get there yet, and I choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have to feel hopeful, or I’ll be hurting my chances, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping Affirmations

I honor all my emotions
I choose to step into feeling neutral
I celebrate that I am able to shift my emotions this much
I know I will continue to feel better and better

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

The fourth step in dealing with disappointment: Forgive the others who were involved.

Bet you could see this one coming!

Here’s the deal with forgiving others: it’s NOT about saying that what they did or didn’t do was right or even okay.

It’s about being ready to release your energetic connections to the situation. When you hold onto anger or frustration, or any type of emotions, it simply keeps that situation alive in your body. And, those emotions use up a lot of energetic resources within your body as well as show up manifested in physical form as illness.

Play with this step and see how it works for you.

Who do you blame for the disappointment? For each person that you name, imagine a part of your energy field is tied up holding onto this emotion.

When you are able to release these energy holds, your body has many more resources to be directing towards all the aspects that are involved in your innate fertility. And, it is important to remember that even releasing just a small portion of these emotions will positively affect your body.

Release what you can today, then a little bit more tomorrow, and a little bit more the day after that. What aspects are you ready to release, right now, in this moment because you are ready to move forward?

Each step of the process to release disappointment takes effort and can be challenging. Because of that, I’m going to give you EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statement proactively or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment.

Even though I am still not ready to forgive, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I’m still too angry and hurt to forgive, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping Affirmations

Won’t it be nice when I’m ready to release this blame
Won’t it be nice when I can step into forgiveness
I am ready to release the energy tied up in anger
I am ready to release the energy tied up in feeling wronged
I am ready to forgive so I can move forward

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

The third step in dealing with disappointment is: Forgive yourself

I know this sounds very “self-help-y,” and yet, it’s an extremely powerful step.

When you stay in the mental place of judging yourself for your role in the disappointment, you simply continue to keep the disappointment front and center. This keeps the disappointment in the present moment and very real. It also tends to make the decisions about the meaning of the disappointment much harder to release (Step 2).

Forgiveness is a tricky act. To some, forgiveness means you have to let go and believe everything is okay.

That’s not actually forgiveness.

Forgiveness is more about releasing all the energy you have tied up and invested in the situation. It’s about letting go of the never ending merry-go-round of, “this was wrong / this was right / I am right / you are wrong, etc.” and instead saying, “I’m done assessing blame. It happened. I’m ready to move forward.”

When you stay tied up in blaming yourself, you are constantly signaling your body that you are at war with yourself. Your body’s fight-or-flight response is continuously being triggered, which severely impacts your entire reproductive system.

Play with this step and see how it works for you.

Each step of the process to release disappointment takes effort and can be challenging. Because of that, I’m going to give you EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statement proactively or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment.

Even though I have to judge myself or I’ll keep making mistakes, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I should have been able to do something differently to create a different response, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Tapping in Affirmations

Won’t it be nice when I can forgive myself
I love knowing that I can choose to forgive myself
I choose to forgive myself

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.