Archive for April, 2011

Second step: Release the meanings you’ve created about the disappointment.

As I’ve mentioned many times before in these newsletter articles, as humans, we really really really like to create meaning. We like to know why something has happened (mostly so whatever hurts doesn’t happen again).

The problem is, typically we choose to create a meaning that has farther-reaching implications than simply this particular disappointment. Meanings like:

I must not have done enough.
I have to do more.
I must not be good enough.
Maybe I’m not deserving enough.
Maybe this is payment for something ‘bad’ I did before.

Can you see how these thoughts can take a feeling of disappointment and create a deep, downward spiral into depression and anguish?

Whether these specific meanings may or may not be the meanings you create, I invite you to look at the meanings you tend to use. Ask yourself the question, “Do I know this to be true?” and then allow yourself to let them go.

Letting go is easier said than done. For each step of the process to release disappointment, I’m going to give you an EFT statements and affirmations to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statement proactively, or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment. You can find these statements in the EFT section at the end of the newsletter.

 

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

First step: Acknowledge what hasn’t come and allow yourself to grieve.

Too many times, especially when you are trying to “stay positive,” you end up pushing away a disappointment. Perhaps you feel like it “shouldn’t” be that big of a deal…or it seems easier to push away the emotion than to have to feel the sadness of disappointment.

The only problem with this is you push the disappointment out of your consciousness, but your body remembers and stores the emotions. Then, the next time you experience disappointment, you find yourself reacting to the current disappointment AND the older memory. So, it is best to acknowledge the emotions as they are happening and do your grieving in the moment.

Allow yourself to feel the feelings.

Remember, this is just step one of the process. I’ll be sharing each successive step in the weeks to come.

For each step of the process to release disappointment, I’m going to give you an EFT statement and affirmation to support the work you are doing. You either can use the statement proactively, or as you are actively working on releasing disappointment. You can find these statements in the EFT section at the end of the newsletter.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.