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How you feel matters to your fertility. How you feel shifts the internal environment of all the cells of your body. The better you feel, the better your body is able to be in balance and allow all the systems of your body to work in the best way they can.

And yet, with all of the disappointments and frustrations of dealing with fertility issues, feeling good is often difficult.

Guided imagery is an amazing tool to help shift how you feel. Here is a short guided meditation for you to try:

Coming Alive

Begin by taking three (3) deep breaths. In your mind’s eye, imagine you have a small spark in the center of your belly—just like a pilot light on a furnace—that controls how you feel. You have the ability to turn this flame up or down, depending on what you need. With each hurt, disappointment, and loss, the flame is turned down more and more as protection, so you end up feeling less and less.

Imagine now that you are ready to feel better, ready to have more energy and zest. As you decide you are ready, picture yourself turning up the dial on your flame. Some of you may even need to relight the pilot light! Slowly turn it up more and more. As the flame grows brighter, you can feel it is bringing energy to all parts of you body. The energy grows and grows and grows. As the light grows, you find this light gives you support when you need it or comfort or a new spark. Let the light grow as bright as you can!

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Imagery is a powerful resource when you are dealing with fertility issues for four important reasons:

1. Engages the relaxation responseOur day to day lives are filled with multiple stressors; add issues with fertility and those stressors multiply. Yet, the very hormones involved in the body’s response to stress wreck havoc on all the systems of your body that affect your fertility.

   Guided imagery is one of the wonderful tools to create what’s termed the Relaxation Response.

   When you actively engage the Relaxation Response 20 minutes a day for 2 weeks, you literally create physiologic changes to the cells that are listening for the stress messages in your body. If your cells don’t “hear” the messages, you don’t physically feel as stressed, and the stress response is shut off in your body.

2. Creates an altered stateMaybe this sounds like a good thing, and maybe it doesn’t!

   Have you ever had one of those days when you are “in the zone”? Answers to long term problems simply appear, projects just flow along, and more. You find yourself in a relaxed, comfortable frame of mind.

   Belleruth Naparstek has this to say about altered states, “In the altered state, we are capable of more rapid and intense healing, growth, and learning and change.”

   When you regularly create these altered states, you have access to the deepest, wisest part of yourself. When you are dealing with infertility, you have so many decisions to make, so many types of losses to handle. Practicing this altered state gives you so many more resources to handle these difficult situations.

3. Puts YOU back in controlControl is actually a very tricky word when it comes to fertility. Our natural fertility doesn’t respond well to being controlled. In fact, trying to over-control our bodies and our lives has a negative impact on our fertility systems.

   However, when you reach a place of despair, a feeling of helplessness, this also has a negative impact on your body.

   Guided imagery helps you navigate these difficult waters. Imagery helps you see where you can release control and where you do have control.

4. Re-engages the spirit part of mind~body~spiritThe longer I work with women dealing with fertility issues—and in my own life—the more importance I place on finding a way to connect with Spirit. I am not talking about religion, but rather that very deep connection to the sense there is something beyond ourselves.

   As humans, we so often want to know why: why is this happening to me? Why is this happening for her, but not for me? Why am I having so many difficulties? Why can’t I have what I want?

   Our minds cannot give us these answers. No matter how many degrees you have, no matter how many books you read, no matter how much Internet research you’ve done, these resources can’t give a complete, satisfying answer. Spirit is the only resource I have found to give that complete, soul satisfying, life giving answer.

   Guided imagery is a way to begin to connect or re-connect with Spirit in a very gentle way.

Whether you choose to use guided imagery to connect with your body in a very scientific way or to meet your wise, inner self, you will find that guided imagery will give you a powerful ally in creating the family you desire.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

How can you possibly heal after pregnancy loss?

Is it something that just takes time? Or is there more that you can do to ease the hurt?

To be certain, the path to healing is different for each person. But what I’ve learned in my 10 years of supporting women as they create their families is there are several commonalities on that path:

First, expect a wide range of emotions: from grief to anger to separation from Spirit / God to acceptance. Each of these emotions needs to be honored and acknowledged.

Second, the path to healing isn’t linear. Just when you think the grief is over, or the anger is over, something will happen and all of a sudden, you’re right back in the emotion all over again.

Finally, drawing healing and understanding from outside of yourself is key. Our nature as a human is to want to know why. And that makes sense. Perhaps we feel if we know why, we can prevent it from happening again. If we know why, perhaps the pain can finally go away.

But, our minds can never answer that question of “why” satisfactorialy. We can’t think our way to healing. Drawing in healing from something bigger than ourselves assists us in moving into acceptance, trust, strength, and hope.

In light of these commanalities, I am pleased to announce a brand new guided meditation offering:

The download version of this brand new offering, A Soft Place to Land:
Guided Meditations for Healing After Pregnancy Loss, will be ready next Tuesday, February 8th.

This guided meditation offering contains 3 separate tracks.

The first track is designed for soothing the raw and raged emotions that come when you first experience your loss – or for anytime you are feeling overwhelmed by emotion.

Track 2 is designed to use once you begin to get your breath back. Step into a sacred grove and begin healing mind~body~and spirit.

The final track is for use once you have made the choice to begin to conceive again. This meditation addresses the emotions that come as a natural result of deciding to move forward after a loss and helps you to create confidence in your body as well as draw in rich, fertile, creative potential.

Again, the download version is being released on Tuesday, February 8th.

To honor those of you who are ready to heal right now, I want to make you a special offer. If you purchase the download by the end of the day Thursday, February 10th, you will receive a coupon for a no-charge Relief Now! audio.

These Relief Now! audios use EFT to help you shift a deeply held belief or emotion. You can either select a current Relief Now! audio, or use it on the pregnancy loss specific recordings that will come out later this month. More information to come on these audios.

My intention for A Soft Place to Land is that it provides nurturing, comfort, and healing as you find your way back to hope and trust.

I welcome any questions you have about the recording and I’ll be back in touch when the recording is officially available.