Archive for October, 2010

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere”
 —Francois de La Rochefoucauld

As critically important as it is to have the support of others going through the same type of situation as you, people who truly understand, it is as critically important that you find a place within yourself where there is peace during crisis. No amount of support and understanding can fill up that place for you. It can help lead you there but you must ultimately find the way to access that place.

Even if you (or I) could wave a magic wand and create the most understanding support system in the world, if you don’t have that place of peace within you, that support will eventually stop creating the same kind of relief for you.

Think about pouring water into a vase that has a slow leak. What’s going to happen? Each time you fill the vase, it looks great. You leave the room only to find a puddle of water on the floor and drooping flowers when you return. Keep doing it and the slow leak will turn into a major break.

Ask yourself this: What am I doing to create that place of peace within me right now? What am I doing to fill myself up? How am I being gentle with myself today? What brings me the most relief and how can I have more of that right now?

Creating this place of peace is one of the most helpful benefits of using mind-body-spirit tools such as meditation, visualization, and EFT. Once you know how to create this place for yourself, nothing can take it away. And, the more often you access it, the more in balance your body will become.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.

Affirmations, used correctly, are powerful tools that allow you to stay aligned with the goal you have: a healthy pregnancy and baby. Affirmations keep your mind~body~spirit system open to your goals.

Let me give you an example of a fertility affirmation. Granted, this is an “extreme” example, but it will be easier to illustrate my point:

“I’m pregnant with a healthy, happy baby”

How does this feel? Does your mind and body react joyfully? Does your mind and body accept it easily? Probably not if you’ve been dealing with infertility or loss.

What are the thoughts and feelings that come up when you say this statement?

“Maybe I am, maybe I’m not.”“I can’t say that or I’ll get my hopes up.”“It feels too scary to say that if it isn’t really true.”“I used to think things like this, it didn’t work—it’s just wishful thinking.”

If you continue to use this affirmation—or even if you stop and do nothing with the thoughts that came up—you’ve put yourself in a worse place than if you hadn’t done the affirmation to begin with. You’ve now raised the stress response in your body, which is not helpful to your reproductive system.

However, if you take these thoughts to the next level, they are pure gold in terms of helping your body AND your fertility.

These thoughts didn’t just arise because of the affirmations. They came up in response to the beliefs you carry in your mind~body~spirit system. These beliefs create the emotions that keep the stress response running behind the scenes. The affirmations simply brought them to the surface.

These beliefs could be:

  • I have no impact on my body’s fertility.
  • My body must be broken; there must be something wrong with me.
  • It’s dangerous to hope.
  • I’m not strong enough to keep getting my hopes dashed.

Identifying and shifting the beliefs helps your mind~body~spirit system to be more in alignment with your goal: a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Please don’t get me wrong; affirmations are a phenomenal way to put your mind~body~spirit in tune with your goals. Just be cognizant of the thoughts that come up as you do the affirmations. When you pay attention to them, you’ll enhance the power of affirmations 10-fold.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit www.AnjiOnline.com.