A common thought in the Mind~Body~Spirit approach to conceiving is it is helpful to “let go” or “surrender.” I have clients tell me all the time they think they need to surrender because there are so many stories of people “giving up” and then they get pregnant.

Surrendering or letting go is challenging because many people do believe they have to “give up” their desire for a baby.

Surrender IS a key concept I teach to my clients. (It is the third principle of Being Fertile.) However, I am most certainly NOT asking them to give up their desire to have a baby. Here’s what I am asking them to surrender:

  • The constant monkey mind, which is always whirring, spinning, questioning and asking, “What do I do next?”
  • Anxiety and fear.
  • Letting go of the judgment about not yet having a baby. This is all about making peace with where you are.
  • The attachment to needing a baby.

    What I mean by this is we often attach very specific meaning to having that baby. To some people it means they are no longer a failure or have finally proved they are enough. This creates mental tension.

    When you can embody the knowing that no matter what happens — baby or no baby — you are going to be okay. You move your entire physical body into a knowing of safety. This creates the emotional chemistry that allows your cells to be in growth mode, which in turn supports your innate fertility.

  • The attachment to how the baby comes.

    This often creates the most fear. I am not asking you to be comfortable with all avenues to creating a child. I am also not asking you to take any steps into any avenues you aren’t ready to take (or may even need).

    However, when you place a limitation such as: I refuse to use medical intervention … or … I refuse to do IVF, etc., then you create a substantial amount of mental resistance, which takes a lot of energy to deflect. This draws down your available physical resources and creates the emotional chemistry that supports the fear mode in your cells.

Attachment creates both emotional suffering and physiological changes within your body, which work against your fertility. Surrender is never asking you to give up your desire, simply your attachment to needing the baby to be happy.

Surrender is an evolution. Start today by becoming aware of what you are attaching to your desire to have a baby and how this baby comes to you. Take those questions softly and gently and see what arises.

Jennifer Bloome, MSOT, HWC, is the founder of Anji, a company dedicated to providing support for women’s health and self-care. Jennifer is a Health and Wellness Counselor specializing in Women’s Health, and a Certified Energy Practitioner. She has trained at Herbert Benson’s Mind/Body Institute in Boston and has spoken nationally on the effects of Mind/Body medicine on women’s health. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized guided meditation series, “A Journey of the Heart.”

There may not be another act that is as intimate as creating a baby.

Not only is physical intimacy required, but emotional intimacy is involved as well. Hopes and dreams for a Soul that isn’t even on the planet are intertwined with a deep desire for everything to be “okay” with the pregnancy and baby.

When infertility gets introduced into the baby making process, physical intimacy is often removed, but emotional intimacy skyrockets. Fear. Worry. Wonder. Anger. Hurt. Jealousy. Rage. Questioning. Sadness.

Emotions explode and intimacy suddenly feels overwhelming. Who really wants to get more intimate with what can feel like a raging river?

Often, the reaction is to seek refuge in the mind: how can I figure this out? What can I do to fix this problem? What steps do I need to take? I’ll do whatever it takes to make this happen.

Intimacy gets pushed to the side and action takes over.

And yet, when this happens, the true opportunity of intimacy is missed.

Infertility is a signal that your mind-body-spirit is out of balance. Infertility is an invitation to delve into a deeper understanding of the connection between your mind, your emotions, your connection to spirit, and your body.
Many mistake this opportunity as blame. As in, “This is my fault.”

I invite you to look at this through a different lens. This is a call from your Soul to bring you back into alignment. It’s a call for a more intimate understanding of your Self and a deep transformation that will bring you into a new way of communicating with your body and the world around you, as well as finding your path to becoming a Mother.

Ready to use the power of intimacy?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

My role as the founder and community leader of Anji is to help women create new pathways of thought that lead to Mind~Body~Spirit alignment and vibrant fertility.

This is not a quick “fix.” Yet, it is the process that will correct imbalances within your body, creating long-term health as well as pregnancy. The side effects of this approach are: joy, happiness, and deeper connection (with your Self, with others, with your future children).

This approach — like any other, including IVF — takes commitment and integration into your daily life.

One misstep I see people taking as they work to utilize this approach is doing as many different modalities as possible while not paying attention to the “why” of the modality. In other words, “ticking” the box of doing that particular modality without truly integrating it in, so it has the possibility of doing what it was designed to do.

For example, including relaxation or visualization.

The whole point of doing relaxation and/or visualization is to stop the stress signals that are happening in your body. The Relaxation Response shifts the internal chemistry of your body, which in turn, supports, nurtures, and amplifies your fertility.

However, if you are doing the relaxation exercise and then following it up with chaotic days, continual angry, stressful, or anxious thoughts, or multi-tasking through the exercise, the results become null and void.

No judgment, but are you allowing the methods you are using to amplify your fertility the ability to work?

Difficulty with infertility is your body telling you something is out of balance within your body (same as if someone has cancer, heart problems, or diabetes). What is your body telling you? What is your body truly asking for to shift that imbalance?

As humans, we resist change. We want what we want when we want it, without having to make any changes in our lives. I get it. I’m the same way.

You are here and part of the Anji community because you have interest in creating fertility within your body through a Mind~Body~Spirit approach.

If you are willing, I am going to suggest some questions to journal with or simply sit lightly on your consciousness to help you ease into an integration and/or commitment that will change your fertility.

  1. What kind of imbalance is my infertility reflecting to me? Is it in the body, the mind, or the spirit?
  2. What is one step I can take today to bring myself more into Mind~Body~Spirit balance?
  3. What can shift in my life outside of fertility to match the new skills / thought patterns I am learning within my fertility quest?

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If you aren’t receiving the child you want, then you have some underlying beliefs that are impacting your ability to receive.

In my 17 years of experience in working with women to help them create the family they desire, I have noticed certain themes in these beliefs that were blocking their ability to conceive.

Body
Will it be safe for you to go through a pregnancy?
How hard will pregnancy be on your body image?

Sexuality
Beliefs developed from trauma or abuse.
Comfort with your body’s cycles.
Knowing that having sex is safe.

Feminine vs Masculine Energy
Are you able to receive?
Can you receive without feeling guilty or needing to prove you’re worthy first?
Can you exchange the driving, striving, pushing energy with allowing, receiving, and nurturing?

Baby’s Health
Fear the baby won’t be healthy
Significant fears and worries about being able to keep your child safe.

Family History
Wanting to be like / not like parents.

Work/Life Balance
Will you be able to be the parent you want to be and nurture what’s important to you as an individual, including career.

Relationships
Will a baby come between you and your partner?
Who do you want to be as a mother?

General Themes
Perfectionism.
Flow of life: is life hard / struggle vs. joy / ease — are you willing to allow what you want to come with joy and ease?

Sometimes treatment is enough to overcome the conflicting beliefs. But, if treatment hasn’t been helping… or if you want to take a more natural approach, learning your personal underlying blocks can be helpful.

Of course everyone is an individual. My invitation to you is to sit with the list and see what resonates and what comes up for you.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

If the leaves of your favorite plant are droopy, do you pour water on them? Or, do you pour water over the roots?

Your body is built to be fertile, to create new life.

When your body isn’t conceiving, or not creating healthy eggs, or not building a healthy lining, pushing your body to create more eggs or force a great lining can be a bit like trying to nourish droopy leaves by drowning them with water.

Sometimes it is enough — and that’s great.

But if it isn’t working for you, what’s the next step? What’s the root of the reason your body isn’t conceiving?

Working at the level of your Mind and Spirt will give you insight into what is happening at the root levels. I want to offer you a few questions you can start to ask yourself to begin to uncover the roots of your fertility issues, so you can give your body the nourishment it needs to return to full fertility.

However, before I do that, I want to remind you that asking these questions is NOT about blaming you for your situation. ALL illness has roots in the Mind and the Spirit. And, it is my belief (which you are free to take on or discard as you see fit) that our Souls lead us to the perfect circumstances at the perfect time to allow us to open to a new understanding of ourselves and relationship with the deepest parts of ourselves.

Not only will asking these kinds of questions lead you to a re-nourishment of your fertility, but they will also give you a new, fuller, more abundant way of living life.

Start with these questions:

  1. How does dealing with infertility make you feel? When have you felt these emotions before?
  2. Why do you want a child? Why do you not want a child?
  3. On a scale of 0-10, how easy is it for you to receive?
  4. Have you experienced any sexual trauma?
  5. How safe is it to have a child in this world?
  6. How safe are you in the world?
  7. Who do you need to be in order to trust in, believe in, or love your Self?
  8. What role does the Divine play in the unfolding of your day-to-day life?

What are the questions that make your stomach clench? What are the questions that highlight areas of pain, sadness, or need to control?

These are the tips of your roots showing.

Jennifer Bloome is a Fertility Expert helping women energetically balance and heal their mind, body, and spirit to boost natural fertility. Jennifer is the creator of the internationally recognized Journey of the Heart series of guided meditations to support women in all stages of fertility treatment and pregnancy. For 3 no-charge guided meditations as well as information on teleclasses or individual sessions, please visit http://www.anjionline.com.

This is the sixth of my email series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th. (If you would like to hear all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

The first five emails have shared how your intertwined your mind, body, and spirit are and how that can work against your fertility.

The good news is, you can use the way your body works to work FOR your fertility instead of AGAINST it.

Here are 5 steps to take:

Relax

This is NOT about simply, “oh honey, relax and you’ll get pregnant.” This is about relaxing your body at the cellular level.  Utilize the Relaxation Response to bring your cells out of protection mode and into growth mode on a regular basis.

Activate the Relaxation Response through guided meditation, visualization, yoga, simple breathing exercises, mindful walks, and more.

Release

Identify and heal the thoughts, behaviors and emotions that are sending danger messages to your body about conceiving.

These are patterns of thought and belief that are so ingrained that you don’t notice them.

A few questions to start you off:

On a scale of 1-10, how much do I trust my body?
What impact will a baby make on my relationships? My career?
In general, is the world a safe place, or a dangerous place?
How much do I trust my body?
Is sexuality safe?
What do I have to do to earn what I want?

Reveal

What do you really want?  I know you want a baby…but why? This step will help you identify more hidden thoughts and beliefs that can block conceiving.

Will a baby give you unconditional love? Will a baby prove that you are good enough? Will a baby help become the Mother you wish you had had?

I know, tricky questions that are uncomfortable. And while you don’t have to have perfect thoughts to conceive, finding and healing the particular belief that is creating the most impact on your mind/body/system will open your creative potential.

Reconnect

Start a daily habit of thoughts that will allow you to create your family.  Lay down new rules in your subconscious that allow you to be completely open to conceiving, to be filled with joy, to be confident in yourself, to be confident in your body.

Renew

What’s your daily practice?  What’s your routine? Commit to put it these steps into a daily practice.

As you practice these steps, your mind/body/spirit will come into alignment and amplify your innate fertility.

If you would like some one on one help, watch your email tomorrow as the Unlock Your Fertility program opens!

This is the fifth of my email series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th.  (If you would like to hear all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Emotions carry vibrations.

Test this out yourself: Imagine feeling sad. Imagine feeling angry. Imagine someone handing you $50,000, no strings attached. Feel the joy and excitement this brings.

Notice how different those all feel.  Notice that sadness feels heavy and low.  Joy feels light and high.

Each emotion creates a different feeling, a different vibration in your body.

Also notice how you can’t have a low vibration AND a high vibration happening at the same time.

So, if you have an area of your life – like dealing with infertility – that is causing many low vibrations, you will find it harder and harder to experience high vibration emotions in other areas of your life.

Not only does this impact your general sense of well-being, but it impacts your fertility.

When you feel the lower vibration emotions, it gets harder and harder to pull yourself out because physiologically you can’t feel high and low vibrations at the same time.

Your body retains memories of previous emotions.  With more and more negative emotions, you can end up feeling worse and worse.  This makes it even harder to move into higher vibration emotions

The more time you spend in a pattern of thought, the more rules you lay down in your subconscious.  This is in addition to the original beliefs that created the physical blocks to conception.

All of these lower emotions firmly entrench your cells in protection mode.

You can also end up getting into a negative cycle of thought, perhaps even build I more beliefs like: I’ll never get pregnant, or, I’m broken, or, I’m really not good enough.

And, all of this adds up to difficulty for your reproductive system.

A mind/body/spirit approach will give you the tools you need to release the lower vibration emotions so that your cells can stay in growth mode and you can release beliefs that aren’t serving your fertility.

On Monday, Sept 11th, learn how to start using a mind/body/spirit approach to improve your fertility.

This is the fourth of my series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th.  (If you would like to hear all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Emotions, cells, and your fertility

Where in your body do you experience emotion?  Your head? Heart? Gut?

The full answer is: everywhere.

Cells communicate with each other and with your brain – these chemical communications are experienced as emotions.

Every cell of your body has receptors for emotions, for these chemical signals.  Not only that, but every cell of your body stores emotional memories.

Emotion is a function of your entire body.

What does this have to do with your fertility?

Emotionally: This is why all of the heartbreak of failed cycles feel like they are weighing on you.  They are literally part of your entire body.

Physiologically:  We are made up of 50 trillion cells – each with cellular memories, each one responding to its environment.
Remember, a cell’s environment is impacted by the emotion you are feeling.

Each cell responds to fear, love, happiness, worry, anxiety. These emotions become part of the cellular environment of each cell.

Negative emotions put cells into protection mode.

Positive emotions put cells into growth mode.

Your fertility requires cells to be in growth mode – a body that is danger doesn’t want to put resources to conceiving.

Subconscious beliefs or thoughts that create emotions that put your cells more into protection mode impact your ability to conceive.

A mind/body/spirit approach to fertility brings healing down to the cellular level allowing your body’s resources to be put towards conceiving.

More information tomorrow!

This is the third of my series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility.  It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th. (If you would like to all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Your Subconscious Mind and Your Fertility

Your subconscious mind is the “automatic pilot” part of your brain.  This part of your mind perceives what is around you and translates your environment into manageable “chunks” and then directs how your body responds to them.

In a single second, your subconscious mind will process 20 million pieces of data.  In that same second, your conscious mind processes only about 40 pieces of data. The subconscious mind needs to know what’s important to send on to your conscious mind.

How does it do this? It creates rules.  If the data matches the rule, then it passes it on.  Ever notice how the day you are feeling the worst about not having your baby yet, that’s the day you see a million pregnant women?  You were focused on pregnancy – so that’s what information got passed on to you.

Taking it a step farther, your subconscious’ job is to keep you safe and alive.  If a rule isn’t being met within your body, it creates a danger message within your body which activates many systems, including your stress system, your fight or flight response.

Where do rules and beliefs come from?

Your subconscious is wide open up until about age 7.  We learn the vast majority of our rules or beliefs before the age of 7.  90% of adult behavior comes from beliefs learned before the age of 7.

This is great, until we take on beliefs of others that don’t serve us well, such as:

Pregnancy and birth are to be feared (because of all the stories from your mom or aunt or neighbor.)
You’re supposed to be the responsible one
You’re not good enough to really have what you want
Being responsible means NOT having a baby
Babies are tough on relationships
Life is hard
Life is about struggle
AND more…

But how does a belief impact your fertility?

Let’s say that the belief you learned when you were young was: “I have to be perfect to be loved.”

You work hard. But every time something isn’t “perfect”, your brain recognizes that the rule isn’t being met and sends out warning signals to your body.

Because “perfect” doesn’t exist, your body is receiving warning messages all the time.  Your fight or flight response is always triggered.  Long term stress negatively impacts your reproductive system.

Your beliefs can support or derail your fertility.

A mind/body/spirit approach to fertility helps to uncover AND heal underlying beliefs that are negatively impacting your fertility.

More information tomorrow!

This is the second of my series about using a Mind/Body/Spirit approach to fertility. It’s all leading up to the reopening of my Unlock Your Fertility Program on Sept 12th. (If you would like to all the information now, I’ve created an audio presentation.  Click here to listen)

Emotional Chemistry

Your thoughts and emotions create an emotional chemistry within your cells. This emotional chemistry is more powerful in changing the systems of your body than any drug you can take.

Your emotional chemistry is the blueprint your cells use in order to know how to act and behave. They look at this environment in order to know whether to be in growth or protection mode, what DNA to turn on/off.

Your beliefs and your thoughts determine your body’s emotional chemistry.

Your body’s emotional chemistry determines how cells should act and behave.

Therefore, your beliefs and thoughts determine how your cells act and behave.

Your mind, emotions, and thoughts make a HUGE impact on all the systems of your body, including your reproductive system.  Using a mind/body/spirit approach to healing your fertility provides a holistic answer to creating your family.

More information tomorrow!

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